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Be absolutely honest. If you could do it all again, would you have had kids ?

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Pisssssedofff Wed 02-Nov-16 07:43:40

I'll answer later.

ByeByeLilSebastian Wed 02-Nov-16 07:44:59

I think so. I've never felt love like it but I do miss having freedom and money!

Chottie Wed 02-Nov-16 07:45:39

yes, Yes, YES! x 1000 times.

Now my DCs are grown up, I really wish I had had more than 2 smile

0hCrepe Wed 02-Nov-16 07:46:35

Yes without any doubt.

Soubriquet Wed 02-Nov-16 07:48:21

Yes. No doubt about it

Though sometimes I wish I had stopped at one (I have two). Then feel guilty because it's like I've wished my youngest wasn't born. But I love them both so much.

Writerwannabe83 Wed 02-Nov-16 07:49:23

I adore my DS but if I were to have my time again I probably wouldn't have children as I would love to experience a life of freedom and money and see what adventures that would allow me to have.

I think being child free must have lots of advantages just like having children does.

It would be great if we were able to experience both to see which we preferred grin

nippey Wed 02-Nov-16 07:49:36

My DD is not 2 yet but I would say absolutely yes so far! It's tiring, stressful and anxiety inducing but the joy and love I've felt is worth all of that and more!

x2boys Wed 02-Nov-16 07:51:53

absolutley and my youngest has disabillities and hard work but i would dom it all again in a heartbeat.

londonrach Wed 02-Nov-16 07:52:52

YES!!!!! (Hugs 14 wk old). With bells on. Every day is amazing so far. (Please dont tell me its gets worse)

DiegeticMuch Wed 02-Nov-16 07:53:23

I've found that it gets easier as they get older. When they were 3 and 1 it was grindingly mundane, with no freedom. As they started to be able to do things for themselves, it improved. I remember the sense of relief I felt when I was able to go to the shop or to the gym for an hour without thinking about whether DH would be home to watch them - little things like that.

buckingfrolicks Wed 02-Nov-16 07:53:56

Wish I had started earlier and had 4.

Megainstant Wed 02-Nov-16 07:54:18

Yes. Had them fairly late (first at 33) and spent 18-31 being a spoilt hedonistic prattish traveller party girl so don't feel I missed anything.

GreatFuckability Wed 02-Nov-16 07:54:19

I'd still have had children. In an ideal world I'd have had them later and probably not so close together, though.

NapQueen Wed 02-Nov-16 07:55:53

Yes I would. I'd have stopped at one though.

Not that I don't adore both kids equally and I couldn't tell you which one I'd rather was the only one. But two is hard. We are massively stretched on space and funds.

Stillwishihadabs Wed 02-Nov-16 07:56:36

For sure, they are 12 and 10-doesn't mean I don't look forward to having time and money again though

EnglishGirlApproximately Wed 02-Nov-16 07:58:37

I honestly do not know. I love ds but he's such hard work, I feel like I haven't had 5 minutes to myself in 4 1/2 years. I don't really enjoy holidays or days out anymore, have only been out twice on my own since ds was born so I find it really hard.

I think if I had family to help, and dp worked shorter hours so I wasn't doing it all myself I would but not in these circumstances because I'm constantly knackered.

damnyoufoulwoman Wed 02-Nov-16 07:59:59

Yes but wish I had him a bit younger and a second.

He's only 2 and really hard work but love it and couldn't imagine life without him.

will be nice when the cm fees stop and we have some spare money again tho

JeanGenie23 Wed 02-Nov-16 08:00:05

Yes but later on in life.

Perhaps started in mid 30s as opposed to late 20s.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Wed 02-Nov-16 08:00:50


But I'd have had them younger. I was with dh for 7 years before ds1 was born so could have had them a little earlier.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Wed 02-Nov-16 08:01:34

X post Jean! I feel the exact opposite.

FlapsTie Wed 02-Nov-16 08:01:52

I've been a parent since I was 22 and I can't imagine it any other way. I do sometime wish my oldest two had been born under better circumstances (one night stand and abusive marriage) but I love them and they bring my life so much meaning and joy. Having dc3 with a loving, involved husband was wonderful and made me a bit sad for the start the eldest two had but they are all equally loved and secure now so it all worked out.

JerryFerry Wed 02-Nov-16 08:02:00


MillionToOneChances Wed 02-Nov-16 08:02:20

Yes, 100%.

confusedandemployed Wed 02-Nov-16 08:03:01

DD RD is 3y8m and my answer is....probably. I was nearly 40 having her and every stage gets easier with more freedom, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss the freedom to come and go as I please.

FaithAscending Wed 02-Nov-16 08:05:53

Definitely. We had fertility issues and for a long time we didn't think we could have kids. It was a long and painful journey. DD is now 3 1/2. I don't know if we'll have any more but she's brilliant and was worth the wait smile

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