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To think that most women (especially at work) don't want other women to lose weight?

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bumblebee50 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:34:13

I work in an environment with mostly females. There's always someone on a diet and a couple of them are currently going to slimming clubs. Everyone excitedly asks on a Wednesday how much weight was lost and if someone says I didn't lose anything or lost half a pound the response is always sympathetic. However, I can't help thinking that a lot of women don't want other women to get to their target weight as it makes them feel slightly adequate. Am I completely off the mark?

TheNameIsBarbara Tue 01-Nov-16 21:38:53

Honestly, I've never actually cared about the weight of my colleagues. My view of them is based on how they are to work with, not their dress size. I'll be happy for them if they reach a goal they are happy with in themselves other than that I couldn't care less.

TheSpottedZebra Tue 01-Nov-16 21:40:26

Yes, you're completely off the mark.

Awwlookatmybabyspider Tue 01-Nov-16 21:40:42

I couldn't care less. I just switch off from all that diet talk. It bores me to insanity.

ThatsWotSheSaid Tue 01-Nov-16 21:42:37

So you think all women are passively aggressively wanting other women to fail and be unhappy with thier bodies?

whattheseithakasmean Tue 01-Nov-16 21:43:14

I pay no attention to diet talk, but if a colleague was happy she had lost weight, i would be pleased for her. Why on earth wouldn't I be?

2cats2many Tue 01-Nov-16 21:44:15

Say what?

WorraLiberty Tue 01-Nov-16 21:44:42

It depends on the person, I imagine.

Some people will be happy for others who manage to do things that they can't and some will feel inadequate or even jealous.

Not just on the subject of weight, but just about anything.

alltouchedout Tue 01-Nov-16 21:44:50

I genuinely don't care how much weight other people lose or put on. I'm happy for people when they are happy for themselves. But my own weight is not in any way linked to anyone else's- I feel far too fat ( I am definitely overweight) at the moment but no one else's weight changes affect how I feel about myself.

CantSleepClownsWillEatMe Tue 01-Nov-16 21:44:51

But why do you think this? You haven't given any reason for that opinion confused

Backingvocals Tue 01-Nov-16 21:45:12

Either you are off the mark or you work somewhere totally weird.

insancerre Tue 01-Nov-16 21:46:30

Strange thread
Very strange
I don't care what my colleagues weigh or how much weight they've lost
I've worked in mostly female workforces for over 25 years and I've never notice that anyone else cares either
I think you've just got weird work coleages

spicyfajitas Tue 01-Nov-16 21:46:46

I want all the women around me to feel happy in their skin, whatever their size of shape. If that means losing a bit of weight then great, I'll cheer them on too and mean it. I'm happy and secure, why wouldn't I want the same for those around me too?

bumblebee50 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:47:33

It's just some of the comments that get made. Someone actually made a comment to me along the lines of "I did that diet and I lost loads of weight - I don't see much difference in you though".

EmpressOfTheSevenOceans Tue 01-Nov-16 21:48:40

What a horrible thought.

Most of the people in my office - women and men - go to the gym or run or do sports & we all encourage each other. We all eat cake together too.

MsVestibule Tue 01-Nov-16 21:49:10

That's a rather misogonistic viewpoint, don't you think? Do you really believe most women are so insecure that they need other women to fail to make them feel better about themselves?

Bluntness100 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:49:35

>> However, I can't help thinking that a lot of women don't want other women to get to their target weight as it makes them feel slightly adequate.<<

I don't understand, why do you think this, what's causing that thought?

Ps, no it's not something I've witnessed either.

CantSleepClownsWillEatMe Tue 01-Nov-16 21:49:57

Ok well that's a bit of a bitchy comment. Don't see how that equates to a lot of women not wanting others to lose weight though. There'll always be one or two unsupportive types but who cares about them!

Raisinthedead Tue 01-Nov-16 21:50:38

I have really never given a second thought to my colleagues - male or female - and their weight loss. I certainly couldn't say I have worked in an environment where people actively don't want their female colleagues to lose weight. That sounds bizarre and rather immature.

DamePastel Tue 01-Nov-16 21:51:52

I couldn't care less. If anybody says they're on a diet, I'm kind of supportive in that I wouldn't sabotage them.

RunRabbitRunRabbit Tue 01-Nov-16 21:52:54

Is it only me who finds it weird that work colleagues go to a slimming club together and discuss their weigh ins at work? I am oldish and have worked in loads of different places yet I have never experienced that.

DamePastel Tue 01-Nov-16 21:53:12

I did work with a 'feeder' once but she had serious issues!

Backaffyaspookybitch Tue 01-Nov-16 21:54:31

I'll tell you one thing - nothing and I mean NOTHING bores me as much as listening to my colleagues discuss their weight and faddy diets.

I immediately just switch off

bumblebee50 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:54:56

Maybe it's just the women at my work then. You get the feeders who constantly bring things in to eat. There's also a few who make some disparaging comments about someone being a bit chunky. Maybe it says more about them then.

Kayakinggirl Tue 01-Nov-16 21:56:22

As long as they are healthy I don't mind what weight people at work are!
As long as they are happy and healthy meaning they can do their jobs, that is the main thing!

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