Me and my dh have recently moved house and now live in the same city as a family who are relatives of my sister.
I had concerns about becoming friends with them as i was worried that it could cause awkwardness if two of us fell out and the others were caught in the middle. I was persuaded by my dh and other family that I was over thinking things and contacted them to suggest a meet.
We arranged an evening for the adults to come over and have drinks when our little one has gone to bed (their kids are old enough to be left alone). They have now contacted me to say that they have been reminded that there are fireworks going on nearby so they want to meet some friends there instead and come another evening. I have agreed as i feel I can't really do anything else without causing tension and I know my sister wants to meet up with us both quite soon but inwardly I feel rather upset by it. I feel like we have been dropped for a better offer.
AIBU for deciding that i don't want to encourage more meetups after this other than those arranged with my sister? I feel we are very different people, i am very much a quiet homebird whereas they take delight in barely being at home. I think with their level of business these kinds of clashes probably happen often and we would always be lower on the list.
I'm so mad at myself and feel like I should have trusted my instincts.
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Rosae · 01/11/2016 14:14
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