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FionaGatwick Sun 30-Oct-16 09:11:38

As I discussed in my other thread, I have started a new life in another country. I have also started a new career - well, not really, but back in uni to retrain.

AIBU to leave everything behind and cut contact with people from home (except with my family)?

Ketsby Sun 30-Oct-16 09:14:33

Why do you need another thread about your desire for mystery and secrecy?

If you have some issue with your family finding out your 'secrets' and your 'new life', knock yourself out. Your incessant coyness and perception of your own mystery, however, is massively irritating and you might find they hardly even notice - you seem to think your friends and family think about you and your situations a lot more than they actually do.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 30-Oct-16 09:16:25

Don't see them and cut contact if that's what you want.

Is it really worthy of another thread?

sooperdooper Sun 30-Oct-16 09:16:27

If you want to go for it, but why?

What's with the big mystery? Tbh it happens naturally in those circumstances for plenty of people but deciding you're going to do it it a bit odd imo

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 30-Oct-16 09:17:26

Strangers online can't tell you one way or another, we don't know your history.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow Sun 30-Oct-16 09:23:21

I'm with Ketsby, why do you keep going on about it?! confused

I doubt anyone has really given it any thought?!

upthewolves Sun 30-Oct-16 09:29:11

I moved to Australia six years ago. I now have very little contact with anyone from home (Facebook 'friends') except family. I didn't intend this to happen but it just did.

When you emigrate, you realise that although it is a huge deal for you, nobody else gives a shit (I have lots of friends from overseas who had the same experience). I'm not sure what your big 'mystery' is but im sure no one will care, if they even notice.

NoahVale Sun 30-Oct-16 09:30:26

i didnt read your other thread, nor am i inclined to,
but it is a shame to cut people out of your life.
you seem to be full of self importance tbh

JellyBelli Sun 30-Oct-16 09:32:36

They've managedwithout you so far, I'm sure they'll all be fine.

FionaGatwick Sun 30-Oct-16 09:33:54

Ok, thank you for the responses! smile

out4thecount Sun 30-Oct-16 09:39:58

On the other hand upthewolves I emigrated to Australia and still have lots of contact with friends in the UK. I've had to do a lot of the leg work but I really value those friendships that I've wanted to nurture and it's been worth the effort. I also have my "new" friends and life in Oz and that's no less important to me.

Fiona you should do whatever makes you happy. If you think you'll never want to be in contact with those people then you're at liberty to cut them off, but if you value any of those friendships you might want to consider keeping in some contact.

SeasonalVag Sun 30-Oct-16 09:51:06

I'm sure nobody's that seem overinvested in what people think!

Emmaghoul Sun 30-Oct-16 09:53:41

Cut all contact if that's what you want. You'll be surprised how little you matter to people (that aren't family) in the grand scheme of things. They may mention you once or twice, like "Whatever happened to Fiona? She moved away. Oh right. Did you see Eastenders last night?"

Good luck with your new life.

MummyLikesWrapMusic Sun 30-Oct-16 09:56:08

Goodness me, Fiona, what makes you think you new life is so utterly fascinating that 'everyone back home' would want to know about it? Are you also one of these people who put vague messages on Facebook, just so everyone asks 'what's up, hun'?

Yabu. Stop imagining yourself as some fantastically mysterious international lady, and just get on with things. Oh, and I hope things work out well, it would be awful to have to return home, and find all these people you distanced yourself from have no interest in you....

ItShouldHaveBeenJess Sun 30-Oct-16 09:59:08

I read the other threads, and I say do it. I got the impression you are not too keen on the friends you left behind anyway, and feel they are judging you for some sort of career malfunction . Start afresh. I have cut people out of my life - it might sound cruel and ruthless, but as a recovering alcoholic, I couldn't risk being around them any more. Everyone deserves a chance to start afresh, and if they are dragging you back into a past you would rather leave behind, let them go.

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