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To think there's no excuse for saying this to a child?

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lovelilies Sun 30-Oct-16 08:10:17

I'm purposely not setting the scene, may do later but I'm pretty sure there aren't* any* circumstances when it's okay for an adult to say
"If you ever swear at me again I'll rip a piece into you", to an 11 yo girl.
Are there?

IfartInYourGeneralDirection Sun 30-Oct-16 08:13:46

It's like tear a strip off you ie- being told off?

If so I think it's ok, hard to tell with all the vagueness

SaucyJack Sun 30-Oct-16 08:14:17

What does rip a piece into you mean?

StCecilia Sun 30-Oct-16 08:15:37

I say to mine "I'll have your guts for garters!" - totally depends on the tone, setting etc

lovelilies Sun 30-Oct-16 08:15:50

The child hadn't actually sworn at the adult, she was being wound up by him and eventually walked away muttering ffs under her breath.

I think it sounds menacing!

lovelilies Sun 30-Oct-16 08:16:51

Was said very calmly and threatening. Child had already apologised for swearing

PotteringAlong Sun 30-Oct-16 08:17:55

It's just a phrase. It's fine.

insancerre Sun 30-Oct-16 08:18:05

It's just words though
I think it depends on the context and the relationship

TeaBelle Sun 30-Oct-16 08:18:07

Yeah, I this k it's a figure of speech and is fine - not an actual threat

missyB1 Sun 30-Oct-16 08:18:12

It's a saying like "tear a strip, the child was getting a warning that swearing wouldn't be tolerated.

NataliaOsipova Sun 30-Oct-16 08:18:45

I think it's just a figure of speech, to be honest - possibly a regional thing? (My nan would have said "...I'll send you into next week!"). I would interpret "rip a piece" as meaning I will tell you off severely. Can't say it strikes me as that awful.

HallowedMimic Sun 30-Oct-16 08:19:25

It doesn't sound that bad.

There are a few variations on the same phrase, I seriously doubt many children would take it literally.

IfartInYourGeneralDirection Sun 30-Oct-16 08:19:43

Still doesn't snot awful to me..perhaps if she was a toddler

IfartInYourGeneralDirection Sun 30-Oct-16 08:20:01

Sound not snot

Eevee77 Sun 30-Oct-16 08:20:11

Meh. Without any context I can't really see an issue with that and that alone, no.

lovelilies Sun 30-Oct-16 08:21:21

I guess IABU then... there was a lot of shouting going on before that must have clouded my judgement.

acornsandnuts Sun 30-Oct-16 08:21:34

Its a figure of speech, albeit one I haven't heard, but I would say it like tearing a strip off you. As in you will be in big trouble. I think you're reading a bit too much into it.

Eevee77 Sun 30-Oct-16 08:21:42

Even looking at your pictures her posts it sounds like adult could have handled it better but I still couldn't get worked up over it tbh.

Moreisnnogedag Sun 30-Oct-16 08:22:21

Yeah just sounds like a severe telling off.

Unless said whilst looming over child with clenched fist obviously.

Blu Sun 30-Oct-16 08:24:20

The whole situation sounds horrible rather than the actual words.

YouMeanYouForgotCranberriesToo Sun 30-Oct-16 08:25:33

I would take it to mean they were going to get a proper telling off if they swore again. I would be furious if my child said that, so I'd probably give them a big telling off the first time.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sun 30-Oct-16 08:28:09

I think it's fine especially as child walked off muttering ffs,at 11! I would probably say the same and definitely calmly as I'm not a shouter.

Rainydayspending Sun 30-Oct-16 08:28:16

It could depend on delivery tone and context. "Tear a strip off" My father standing over me with my own horse crop - yeah, bloody awful. My friend's dad sending her to a room so they could both calm the fuck down - not so bad.

NotYoda Sun 30-Oct-16 08:29:02

I tell my kids I am going to punch them up the bracket

But jokingly

But in your example - a grown man sounding menacing - not good really

siblingrevelryagain Sun 30-Oct-16 08:30:23

I recently said to my daughter "if you break that, I'll break you" (she kept messing with a glass case after being told to leave it alone). To a passer-by it would sound threatening, but in the relationship we have where we're a bit irreverent (I call them muppets affectionately if they do something silly, and we have lots of toilet humour in the house), it wasn't meant as a direct threat and was meant to be light-hearted. I understand how it could be taken as menacing though, as it sounds harsh, much like the 'threat' you heard.

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