To wash hair once a week - disagreement with Mil!

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Enidblyton1 Sat 29-Oct-16 23:02:14

Just wondering how often your DCs have a bath/shower and wash their hair? Mine (aged 5 and 2) have a bath most evenings - at least 5 out of 7 days a week - and wash with soap. Hair wash once a week on a Sunday.
Mil was horrified to learn that they don't have a thorough wash every single night and appalled that hair is only done once a week.
Now I'm beginning to doubt my routine..... AIBU?

OhTheRoses Sat 29-Oct-16 23:04:31

Hmm, I think mine had a bath every other day. DS always had a haireash with bath. DD every other bath so every 4/5 days.

HarryPottersMagicWand Sat 29-Oct-16 23:04:48

I think you are bathing them too much tbh. Mine get 3 showers or baths a week, hair washed each time. Extra shower if they are muddy or something but that's not often. DS has eczema and it's not good for him to wash too much.

I remember only having one bath and hairwash a week when I was little, and I was only allowed the tiniest bit of water. I was fine. Every day just isn't necessary for children.

AuditAngel Sat 29-Oct-16 23:05:19

Not if it works for you and they aren't stinky.

DD2 bathes every 2-3 days and probably hairwashes weekly (just turned 6), DD1 is 9.5 and needs to wash her hair more frequently.

HedgehogHedgehog Sat 29-Oct-16 23:05:53

YANBU
As a child i washed my hair once a week. My LO who is nearly 2 only has his hair washed once a week and only has a bath every few days.
Washing too often dries out the hair and skin. Unless your kids are getting ridiculously dirty rolling about in mud, theres no need to wash their hair ever day at all and in fact it would have a very bad effect on their hair.

That1950sMum Sat 29-Oct-16 23:05:56

Mine have a bath every day and wash hair every other day.

EnidClowes Sat 29-Oct-16 23:07:22

Same here and same ages of DC. They maybe only have bubbles once a week though. Hands are always washed with soap during the day, before food, after loo etc.
I hardly ever do bathtimes (DH mostly does then and I do their meals). Hairwash is my duty and it's only ever once a week unless they've dunked themselves in something.

tiktok Sat 29-Oct-16 23:08:01

What's it got to do with your MiL? Why does she feel she can express how horrified she is?

Your wash/bath routine is fine, btw.

MiniCooperLover Sat 29-Oct-16 23:08:45

We bath or shower every most evenings because he's often filthy coming home from school (stopped off at playground on the the way and he's 5). Hair wash is generally every other day but we don't use bubbles in his water. Every now and then we just need him to go to bed so rush him up. There's no set rule, you're the parent, you know if they're dirty, or need a wash.

NataliaOsipova Sat 29-Oct-16 23:10:10

Mine have a bath every day (but sometimes like to jump in with me at the weekend as well!) and hair washed twice a week. But your routine sounds absolutely fine and dandy to me. Can't see why your MIL is commenting at all.

ErrolTheDragon Sat 29-Oct-16 23:14:14

YANBU. 'Topping and tailing' in between baths every 2-3 days is usually sufficient. Little kids hair doesn't get greasy so as long as its not got the likes of porridge, gravy or mud encrusted in it, it really doesn't need doing very often, and the odd bit of dinner can often be sponged out (thank goodness, if you have child who goes through a hairwash phobic stage!)

littlepeas Sat 29-Oct-16 23:15:24

Dc are 8, 7 and 5 - very quick shower every weekday morning before school (not hair). Shower and hair washed on Saturday after swimming. Sunday off. Sometimes they have a bath, just to muck about.

It's nothing to do with your mil.

angelikacpickles Sat 29-Oct-16 23:16:29

Mine are 2 and 5 as well and they get two baths a week, hair washed both times.

BossWitch Sat 29-Oct-16 23:16:56

My DD (2 and a half) gets a bath and a hair waah on Sunday. She's fine, perfectly healthy and not at all smelly! She's prone to eczema so I wouldn't ever do a daily bath, but mostly we just can't fit it in to the evening routine!

Though I should say she is a very clean child, she's never been one to rub yogurt in her hair or colour in her face with a sharpie, so she doesn't take much cleaning up really.

maras2 Sat 29-Oct-16 23:17:51

Agree with ticktock. None of her business.Your kid, your rules. grin.

Ankleswingers Sat 29-Oct-16 23:18:40

Mine have a bath and hair wash every day. They get very grubby and filthy; there's no way I couldn't not do it.

Enidblyton1 Sat 29-Oct-16 23:20:59

Thanks for your replies!
I was taken aback by Mil's comments because we get on well and generally agree on things. Think I will have to show her your responses! grin

Bimblepops Sat 29-Oct-16 23:22:55

Two DS's, aged 5&7. They wash (usually a shower) about 3 times a week. Both clean, tidy, non-smelly, lovely kids.

If they wash any more than that, they both have excema flare ups, so it's really not tempting!

thatsn0tmyname Sat 29-Oct-16 23:23:08

Ours have bath and hairwash twice a week, flannel wash morning and evening otherwise. They only have an extra shower if grubby. When I was young I had a bath/ hairwash once a week.

Wayfarersonbaby Sat 29-Oct-16 23:24:25

DD (nearly 4) has a bath every day, just because it's part of her evening routine, and a good way to wind down before bed. Plus she is naturally a mud and food magnet and has atrocious table manners, not a good combination with a liking for tomato-based sauces, so she generally needs a decent wash at the end of the day grin She is in dire need of a bath on any nursery night, as she likes to take her socks off in the nursery sandpit and will come back with orange feet. Why they can't get sand that doesn't dye the kids I don't know....

I wash her hair 2-3 times a week - depends on how much food it's been attracting! She has flyaway curly hair so I wouldn't do it more than that as then it gets frizzy.

catkind Sat 29-Oct-16 23:24:59

Bath once a week with hair wash here. They also go swimming midweek with showers before/after.

littlepeas Sat 29-Oct-16 23:26:40

It does depend a bit on the child - my youngest is constantly covered in all sorts of crap and needs a daily wash. My dd never gets a speck of anything on herself and always smells lovely - I think if I only had her she'd be washed less frequently.

SatsukiKusakabe Sat 29-Oct-16 23:26:57

Same ages - Bath every night before bed, hair wash twice a week.

They sometimes miss a bath or two if we've been out late, they're ill, don't really need one, not a big deal. They didn't have a bath for a few days last week as we were away and busy so they had one in the morning when we were home.

I had them less as a child and remember really looking forward to having my hair washed; felt really aware of it.

I think what you are doing sounds fine - there is a wide range of fine.

PickAChew Sat 29-Oct-16 23:28:36

I'm impressed that you have kids who can go that long without applying the gravy hair gel.

With kids, if mucky, then wash, else don't bother.

Clandestino Sat 29-Oct-16 23:29:03

Shower and hair wash three times a week. I believe that young skin should be given the chance to develop properly and don't think the constant exposure to water and soaps helps it. That said, DD would shower after sports or a hot day or even when she was out swimming etc. But I don't think they need the shower every day. Hair wash once a week doesn't seem often enough to me though. I can't imagine DD's hair after one week without washing.

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