So I recently joined a new team on a permanent basis. I'm a Lesbian who recently married my Wife. We have two children. For the first few weeks it's all been really professional, and everyone has been reasonably friendly. A few days ago one member of staff who is originally from Africa asked me when my Husband and I got married. I then explained it was my Wife. She looked it utter horror
I understand that not everyone agrees with gay marriage and I actually respect that to an extent, originally coming from a country where it's illegal myself but she then went on quite a rant about how she considers it wrong, especially with children involved. I was surprised she openly voiced that considering it's a liberal, supposedly professional environment to work for but then I realised why when the Boss agreed with her. Bear in mind I work in Government organisation not a private company. They didn't say anything that could get them sacked, but it wasn't very pleasant.
Anyway a young woman, I think she's around 25, interrupted the women mid speech to ask when I got married and whether she could see pictures. So she grabbed a chair and sat looking at my pics from our wedding day and pics of my Daughter. She said they were lovely and my Daughter was absolutely beautiful. She said I'm not allowed not bring in pictures from her Christening because she wants to see them. Every Monday morning since she has asked how my Wife and I are and been really friendly.
I thought it was lovely, and a very effective way of making me feel welcomed, but my Wife thinks she may have been being fake and making fun of me by pretending to like the pictures. She's never took someone the wrong way before and doesn't normally think like that.
AIBU to think she was just being really friendly and dealing with a difficult situation in an effective way?
Plus, I know they got given a warning by a Line Manager so since I never said anything I suspect it was her. What do you think?
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crissya · 26/10/2016 11:14
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