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To be annoyed that he made fun of me

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Zaphodsotherhead Tue 25-Oct-16 19:05:28

Went on a holiday that involved flying (and I fucking HATE flying). While there, we went on a short boat trip (he hates boats) and I spent the whole trip checking he felt okay, wasn't feeling seasick etc.

When we got home he was laughing at me for closing my eyes and, basically, praying to a god I don't believe in, during take off. (I was also crying, quietly, but I don't think he noticed that).

He's a dick in a lot of ways too, but AIBU to tell him this was the last straw?

mycatstares Tue 25-Oct-16 19:07:42

He could have been laughing to try to get you to laugh with him and realize how safe flying is, so you don't worry as much next time.

But if his a dick then of course end it with him, don't stay with someone you don't like!

Arfarfanarf Tue 25-Oct-16 19:08:56

Not at all. He doesnt sound like a nice person.
If someone was frightened I'd help them not sneer at them.
Bollocks to him.

Zaphodsotherhead Tue 25-Oct-16 19:11:11

He was making fun of me the following day cat not at the time! It hurts when other people were holding hands etc (oh, he doesn't do that either), and he was just 'eyes down' listening to his music.

Yeah. I need to bin him, the relationship has run its course. I just need to word it right. Each single thing alone sounds petty, but when you add it all up, it's dickish behaviour.

Zaphodsotherhead Tue 25-Oct-16 19:12:16

Sorry cat I just realised you were saying that he was trying to lighten me up about flying after the event. Nope. Just poking fun at me for being scared.

EnidColeslaw771 Tue 25-Oct-16 19:12:46

You don't need to word it right. You just need to say I don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore, you have a right to do that, you don't need to build a case or justify it. Not wanting to is enough.

YouTheCat Tue 25-Oct-16 19:15:07

Get rid.

He sounds awful.

Arfarfanarf Tue 25-Oct-16 19:16:32

I agree with enid.
You say it how you like.
You arent asking his permission or agreement.
You're telling him you are ending the relationship.

Nerris Tue 25-Oct-16 19:20:04

I think it's the lack of him showing signs of actually caring about you and how you're feeling. That's the most important foundation of any relationship, how long have you been together OP?

Zaphodsotherhead Wed 26-Oct-16 12:19:11

We've been seeing each other for five years. He started off lovely, then gradually turned into his dad.

We don't live together or, now, see each other very often. But after this long I need to end it nicely, it's not really his fault. He's never been in a long-term relationship before (he's 50!!) and he doesn't know how it's supposed to go, so he's modelling his parents' marriage. He used to be a lot better, affectionate etc, now it's like he wants me to do what his mum does, (be 'housewifey and womanly) while he does 'dad' things (ie, dictate what we do, be stingy and mean with money).

It's over. If he had any emotional intelligence he would realise this. But he doesn't. He genuinely thinks I'm too busy with work to see him. But we have no communication. None.

Sorry. This was an AIBU. I knew I wasn't.....

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