Wedding with no food

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newnametoday12 Tue 25-Oct-16 17:26:00

My husband and I have just been to a family wedding where there was no food. One drink on arrival and one for the toast. We paid to the travel there and back. It has cost us a fortune. It was an afternoon wedding, not just an evening party. There was no music/dancing etc. The couple earn far far more than we do. AIBU to feel resentful that I paid so much for a wedding present?

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Trifleorbust Tue 25-Oct-16 17:27:55

No music, dancing or food? That sounds miserable. YANBU.

ImperialBlether Tue 25-Oct-16 17:29:46

What time did it start and end?

newnametoday12 Tue 25-Oct-16 17:30:38

It was 2-5.30

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LikeDylanInTheMovies Tue 25-Oct-16 17:30:59

On the face of it it does seem off to offer nothing in refreshment. However YABU to moan about the price of the gift. Either get something or don't, it isn't compulsory. I give what I can afford, I don't make a mental calculation based on how ritzy i imagine the wedding might be.

BrieAndChilli Tue 25-Oct-16 17:31:14

What did you actually do if there was no music??
What time was wedding?
Did you say go to wedding for 3pm, then all stand around until 10pm???

cheesymac Tue 25-Oct-16 17:31:38

I would be miffed!

I thought it was the done thing that the wedding present cost what you reckoned it was per head.

AmeliaJack Tue 25-Oct-16 17:32:00

So they got married and then you all just stood about chatting? shock

Not even cake?


BrieAndChilli Tue 25-Oct-16 17:32:24

Oops x post!
I suppose the timings mean a meal isn't expected but it would have been hospitable to provide canapés or cake or a afternoon tea type thing.
Was it a big wedding?

WipsGlitter Tue 25-Oct-16 17:32:24

Was it clear on the invite it was 2-5.30? I wouldn't have expected a full meal but maybe an afternoon tea type thing?

Was there cake?

BabooshkaKate Tue 25-Oct-16 17:33:14

What fresh hell confused what did everyone do?!

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets Tue 25-Oct-16 17:34:35

That sounds awful!

And sounds like they only wanted people to come to bring gifts, not like they actually wanted to celebrate with anyone.

Jinglebellsandv0dka Tue 25-Oct-16 17:34:55

That's sounds dull

Maybe everything completly fucked up, caterers, dj, cake and they just winged it??

HermioneWeasley Tue 25-Oct-16 17:35:03

That's ridiculously inhospitable. I've been to weddings where there wasn't enough food, the food was awful or having travelled to get there for 12 there wasn't any food until 5, but never had NO food.

At least you know all the guests will be bitching about them!

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington Tue 25-Oct-16 17:35:56

That's not a wedding that's an assembly.

Miserable swines.

WipsGlitter Tue 25-Oct-16 17:35:59

I'm not having music at my wedding. Or dancing.


dingdongdigeridoo Tue 25-Oct-16 17:36:18

If the invite clearly stated 2-5.30 then I wouldn't expect any substantial food. A few canapés or cake would have been nice though.

Their income is irrelevant.

WaxingNinja Tue 25-Oct-16 17:37:16

If you get an invite stating that a wedding is from 2pm 'till 5.30pm then it's fairly evident they're doing it on the cheap.

But even so, one drink, no food, no music, no entertainment, sounds really stingy.

YANBU. It's a pity you didn't realise upon receiving the invite. You should have spent the money you spent on a wedding gift on stopping for a really nice meal on the way home instead.

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington Tue 25-Oct-16 17:38:10

I'm happy to go with the flow as far as weddings are concerned but for them not to provide any food whatsoever, even if it was just an afternoon wedding, well it's miserly. In the extreme.

newnametoday12 Tue 25-Oct-16 17:38:22

They did cut a cake but not sure what happened to it. I would normally agree it's wrong to be calculating about the cost of the present - but I would tend to spend more on a wedding present when i feel it's cost them a lot to host than I would just going to a party - especially when we bought most of our own drinks.

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GoldenWondering Tue 25-Oct-16 17:38:55

Was it a religious ceremony? Dancing would be frowned on here, or indeed anything resembling a celebration.

CharminglyGawky Tue 25-Oct-16 17:39:31

Yabu to bemoan the cost of the gift. A gift is for the couple in celebration of their marriage and not payment for being invited to a wedding.

But no food at all!?!? That is shocking! surely everybody knows that rule number one for happy wedding guests is feed them, preferably lots and often! last wedding I went to had a lovely cream tea, then popcorn, sweet stand and candy floss for the standing around bit and a huge hog roast for dinner and so the evening invitees got fed as well... Perfect!

So if there was no food and no entertainment what did you actually do? confused

Dieu Tue 25-Oct-16 17:39:54

Tight and boring bastards!

WipsGlitter Tue 25-Oct-16 17:40:05

Outline the exact times - was it a standing up mingling party? Were there speeches?

Purplepicnic Tue 25-Oct-16 17:40:09

I suspect the couple and some immediate family went out for a big fancy dinner in the evening when the rest of the guests went home.

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