I don't think I am but I'm wondering if I just need someone to shake me and tell me I'm being petty?!
Im pregnant with my first child and am having a cesarean on Thursday, my parents love the idea of becoming grandparents but have just put me down the whole time. PIL have been so amazing and have helped us get our flat into shape by helping us decorate for baby coming and clear out old stuff so it'd be nice. My parents extended no help and would always be negative about our flat saying we should move out and it's gross (even though the things they we're pointing out we were working on fixing and managed to do so) they've been so unhelpful and even mean to me and my DP about it. My dad has literally refused to help in anyway and last week came to me and had a massive go at me saying that I HAD to stay at his house when my LO is born and that our flat and my partner are disgusting. He also said if I didn't listen to him he would 'grab my partner by the throat and beat it into him' and saying that he clearly didn't love me anyway (which comes from nowhere my DP has done everything right) I've been absolutely devastated for the past week and am struggling to look forward to the birth of my daughter as I feel like a failure.
My DM feels the same and has given me equally no support, she wasn't involved in the argument I had with my dad but I feel like I want to just cut them both out and start afresh? I feel like I have to protect my DP from my dad now and I know my mum doesn't approve of him too, it makes me feel awkward to be in a room with them all as they're so awful. It's been really hard as I've always been close to my parents and I know my dads suffering not talking to me as I'm all he really has and the idea of not seeing my baby is killing my mum too but I feel I have enough real and supportive people that I need to cut them out for mine and my daughters sake?
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Neverknowing · 24/10/2016 14:27
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