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AIBU? Weight loss jibes

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Diamondangel8 Mon 24-Oct-16 10:35:26

AIBU? I went on a hen do last Friday and one of my good friends did not stop having a go at me in front of people I didn't know. It was so embarrassing! This year I have lost 5 stone and am not overweight anymore. I have been big for over 10 years. When I got to the hen do I was 10 mins late as I had other childcare commitments they knew about. She accused me of being drunk and said oh no you just act like it. I was trying to eat my afternoon tea and she kept making snidey comments about I shouldn't be eating that food. I said I have been good all week on SW and going to enjoy myself and not worry about it. If I put on a couple of pound no big deal. Then she accused me of being stupid and extremely vulgar everytime I was making a joke or laughing in front of others.

We went out in the afternoon when she kept making snidey comments towards me - any opportunity. I just ignored them I was trying to have a good time. She was talking non stop to me about her diet tbh I thought it was boring. She is overweight and not been successful on her diet this year at all.

We went out for the evening meal. I was drinking and we had a 3 course meal. She kept shouting "wow its amazing what you can eat on this diet"! Smart a*ss remarks all night long & "its one thing losing all this weight its quite another maintaining it!!". Plus lots of sneers about me being vulgar on the hen do when I was just enjoying myself and laughing with people. My friend said "blimey I see the fun police is here again!". She didnt stop going on. In the end I moved away from her in the club as I was getting sick of her. When we went back to our hotel room I was joking about a friend having a lesbian fling and she shouted at me with a deadpan look on her face that she was really concerned about me, what the hell going on with me? I retaliated said I was really concerned about her shes gone boring not having one drink on the hen do or eating her meals! In the morning I had gone down for breakfast I had cheese with my toast. She shouted over look she has cheese on her toast! Shes not following her diet and everyone was looking over. I just could not believe it. It really peed me off. I did not mention one thing about being on a diet and had been strict all week because I knew I would be drinking and eating off plan. I really have tried to help her all year long with her diet with tips etc and meal planning. I feel she just tried to show me up all weekend and is not happy for me. AIBU?

ImperialBlether Mon 24-Oct-16 10:38:07

Well, first of all she doesn't sound like a good friend! But if she is and if you want to keep her friendship, you need to talk about this with her. Basically she ruined it for you, didn't she? Or at least that was her intention. It sounds as though she's very jealous of you and what you've achieved and feels you're showing her up.

FannyFifer Mon 24-Oct-16 10:38:08

She is not your friend. I wouldn't be around her again after that behaviour.

Thefitfatty Mon 24-Oct-16 10:39:03

With friends like her who needs enemies? hmm

IfartInYourGeneralDirection Mon 24-Oct-16 10:41:02

She's a cunt.
Cut her out of your life you don't need her.

Massive congratulations on the weight loss

LuckySantangelo1 Mon 24-Oct-16 10:46:55

She's not a good friend. Good friends don't behave like that. She sounds like she has massive issues with the fact that you have lost 5 stone.

Take the high road and just back away from her. It's toxic having people like this around.

Well done on your weight loss.

Ifeelyourpain2 Mon 24-Oct-16 10:59:08

I feel terrible for you! What a miserable friend.

She clearly has issues because you have successfully lost weight and she isn't succeeding. I can understand how it could be upsetting for her seeing your success where she is struggling but clearly she has dealt with it in entirely the wrong way.

Great job on the weight loss!

Imnotaslimjim Mon 24-Oct-16 11:08:01

Goodness, if you were my friend I'd be congratulating you on your weight loss and asking for tips!

Bin her ,you really don't need her in your life. I think she's envious of your loss and wants to put you down because she feels bad.

LindyHemming Mon 24-Oct-16 11:10:21

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peppermac Mon 24-Oct-16 11:10:58

Wow tell her to fuck right off! Jealous

Cherryskypie Mon 24-Oct-16 11:11:48

'They're just jealous' is overused on here but in this case, they are just jealous and it's making them act like a total shit.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Mon 24-Oct-16 11:21:55

She is jealous of the lighter you. I wouldnt bothed helping her anymore either after all that shit. You've worked damn hard and lost loads of weight, you should be damn proud of that. Not your fault she isnt having the same success.

I imagine after seeing what you ate that night, she's got it into her head thats what you always eat, but still lost weight.

Well done on the weight loss and be proud about it.

eurochick Mon 24-Oct-16 11:34:07

She liked you being the fat friend. She's threatened by your success in losing weight. She is not a good friend at all!

19lottie82 Mon 24-Oct-16 11:37:23

She's jealous. Huge congratulations on your weight loss. You should be very proud!

gleam Mon 24-Oct-16 12:15:58

Well jel. Ignore her. She just can't handle your success in losing weight.

Her own weight was probably highlighted by getting ready for the meal. I know when I'm getting ready to go out (rare!), it really hits home exactly what you look like and how well your clothes fit.

lasttimeround Mon 24-Oct-16 12:34:06

Yeesh - but a common effect of weightloss to flush out the odd 'friend' who can't cope with it. Avoid

shannonocmarie Wed 02-Nov-16 21:56:28

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ALLthedinosaurs Wed 02-Nov-16 22:15:38

Yanbu... she sounds awful! I agree with pp that she liked you as the "fat friend". I don't like saying "she's jealous", either but she's certainly acting it.

Congratulations on the weight loss by the way. That's bloody fantastic flowers

OnceMoreIntoTheBleach Wed 02-Nov-16 22:17:30

Agree, jealous. Well done you OP grin

80schild Wed 02-Nov-16 22:20:19

I wouldn't even bother talking to her about it.

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