When dp and I first got together I made it very clear that travel was the top of my life priorities. It's the main motivation in my work, saving, lifestyle - everything. He made out that he was the same so early in our dating I asked him what countries he'd seen. He said "Holand, Scotland ... and that's it up to now but I want to see more" 🤔 Clearly lied about being an avid traveller then but I gave him benefit of the doubt.
A year later and we decided to save up to go to Thailand, Cambodia and Vietnam. We gave ourselves a year to save. 2 months in and I told him i had saved enough for half the cost of the flight and if he had the same, we could perhaps get that part booked. He said he hadn't managed to save anything yet as money had been tight (so whilst noticing the brand new PlayStation 4 he'd just bought) I said fine, I'll wait.
4 months in I asked him how much he had saved. He said "loads". I said great, shall we book these flights?" And he said "yes, at the weekend". Weekend came and went, he made excuse after excuse "my bank won't let me log in, I've lost my bank card ... ' etc etc.
6 months in and I said "right, I have the money for half the cost of flights and to book the first hotel in Bangkok - I'm not expecting you to have the same but do you have the flight money cos it needs booking". He said he had "about £200". At this point I said he either came up with the money within the next month or I would go alone. 3 weeks later he's going on giving me a hard time that I have forced him to borrow money off his parents. I went home and booked a holiday for myself and a friend instead. He was mortified and said I'd ruined his entire year as that was all he had to look forward to and now he feels like he's been stabbed in the back!!! When he wasn't coming up with the money I asked him several times if he really wanted to go and could he really afford it and he said yes every time.
I feel he was just been lazy, couldn't be arsed to save and probably hoping I would cover the cost out of pure desperation.
I've now told him I don't feel we're suited and am thinking things over. He said "what, over a holiday???".
So aibu?!
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To have booked a holiday without DP and tell him I'm reconsidering our suitability?
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Gezamya · 23/10/2016 10:45
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