To me, it smacks of entitlement. As in, "Billy is angry at Jane because Jane put him in the friendzone". Well, what made Billy think that being friends with Jane entitled him to sex? Why is Jane's friendship such an an unsatisfactory consolation prize? Why is Jane responsible for Billy's hurt feelings when all she did was... not fancy him?
And turn it around the other way. Poor Jane. She thought she had a friend in Billy, only to find out he was only being nice to her in the hopes that she'd sleep with him. As soon as she made it clear that wouldn't happen, he's pouting and stomping his foot and whining about the "friendzone" like she's the one in the wrong.
Billy might not be getting sex (poor him, not!!) but Jane is finding out that her friend Billy was never her friend at all.
I hate this entire concept because it's just another symptom of this male sense of entitlement that is becoming such a danger to women. All the time, I see news stories about women saying no and men killing them, beating them, raping them, assaulting them, shooting them, all for the non-crime of saying "no". Obviously I'm aware not all men are like this, but... it's small things like the "friendzone" that pave the way for some men to think they're owed something, and go on to do those dreadful things.
Down with the "friendzone", I say. I'd rather it was eradicated from our collective consciousness. I'm certainly going to be teaching my son that he's not owed sex by any woman, no matter how nice he is.
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jayisforjessica · 23/10/2016 00:49
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