To cringe at DH asking DS if he had a nice time.

[Happyhippy45]

Ds has recently having regular dates through tinder. He has been friends online with the girls for a while, some of them are friends of friends.
He told DH about going on date (DH prised it out of him.)
I had my suspicions he was on tinder but at 19 it's his business. He's a sensible lad.
The last twice he's come home after a date (not overnight.) DH asks him in a amused tone "Did you have a nice time?"
I think it sounds like he's taking the piss and it's cringy as fuck.

[Arcadia]

I don't see the problem

[ThymeLord]

Eh?

[DramaInPyjamas]

What's cringe about a dad asking his son if he had a nice time out?

[Happyhippy45]

Potentially Ds has been out shagging......"did you have a nice time?" Just sounds off to me.

[ImperialBlether]

But does every date end in sex? It sounds a normal question to me!

[Happyhippy45]

It's the way DH says it, like he's laughing about it.

[2014newme]

Sounds completely appropriate and pleasant to me. Son can just reply yes thanks

[Milzilla]

:/

Isn't it weirder to totally avoid the topic?

[LouisvilleLlama]

If he ever gets a long term girlfriend god help the dad if he asks how the relationship is going or takes an interest in his sons personal life in a general way

[ThymeLord]

Would you rather he said, how was the shag son?!

[TathitiPete]

Do you think DH is mocking DS for online dating? If so then yeah, that's a bit shit.

[MistressMolecules]

Yes YABU - massively!

Thyme

[Nurszilla]

I think it's quite nice that he's asking tbh.

[LouisvilleLlama]

It's not like he's getting him by the shoulder sitting him down opposite eachother rubbing his hands together with glee, opening a bottle of Stella and saying " so son tell me how was she?" With dribble running down his chin from excitement

[gillybeanz]

It doesn't matter if the lad had sex or not when you are asking if he had a nice time.

I'm sure mine must have had sex sometimes and I've asked if they had a good time, enjoyed themselves etc.

It would be weird not to ask because they might have.

[Happyhippy45]

No it doesn't mean he was out shagging but his dad is being childish about him going on a date and making fun of him. Like tonight he asked me to tidy up his buzz cut that I did last week before his date. He said it's grown in quite fast. His dad slagging him off that he only got me to cut it because he's going on a date. Which is probably true but why slag him off about it?

[Happyhippy45]

Yes tathit I feel like he is mocking him. He was asking me if I though he was on tinder. I said yes and he burst out laughing.

[Happyhippy45]

DH thinks he's a comedian. DS is not amused by his comments.

[LouisvilleLlama]

To me it sounds like a little wind up that most parents do one time or another both mothers and fathers and to boys and girls. Not mean spirited really.

[cromwell44]

I don't see where 'slagging off' comes into it. You seem to be overly concerned about your DH and DS's conversations with each other. Perhaps you should stop trying to referee and allow your DH to interact with DS on his own terms.

[MyGiddyUncle]

he asked me to tidy up his buzz cut that I did last week before his date. He said it's grown in quite fast. His dad slagging him off that he only got me to cut it because he's going on a date. Which is probably true but why slag him off about it?

How on Earth is that 'slagging him off'? Joking that he's asked you to cut his hair because he has a date...sounds pretty normal banter to me.