Background: my mum was never a mother - she made it abundantly clear she regretted having kids and passed us around to relatives/neighbours/friends until she finally left when I was young. My dad had his own family, he was a nice man but I saw him probably twice a year. I moved in with a friend and her mum aged 12 and had my own flat when I was 17 and met DP 3 years later. I'm hard working, focused and ambitious.
I've been with my DP for 10 years. I love him dearly but I just can't show it, I feel like if I show it something bad will happen and I'll be left hurt so I choose not to and stay guarded. He puts up with that and shows me lots of love in various ways.
He cares for me immensely and shows it by reducing my daily/life stresses, little things like filling my car up with petrol to things like making all of my meals every day. When he's away, he leaves me precooked meals because I would just work all day and not bother eating.
I make him laugh lots and am supportive of all of his endeavours but I'm not sure I do much more than that. I struggle with commitment so, despite a proposal, we're not married and I don't know if I want children. He would like both but has said he'd rather have me - I've never told him it's a choice or anything like that. I also dislike sex, always have, he puts up with that too. Never pressures me or makes me feel bad.
I love him but know someone else could love him better. Outsiders are always telling him he's the lucky one and even say he's punching above his weight, this is purely based on looks and my job I think. In private though I'm plagued with doubt that I'm enough for him - if I asked him, he would tell me I am.
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BlowFishes · 22/10/2016 21:06
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