Hello!
We've recently found out I'm expecting our first baby in May.
Coincidentally my partner has been offered a new job with a pay rise of about £7500 per year. All wonderful news... except he's turned it down!
I'm really annoyed because when I go on maternity leave money is going to be very tight! He seems to think I'm being unreasonable by saying I'm not planning on going back to work till January 2018 (8 months mat leave- I didn't think this was unreasonable)
He's a chef and says that the new job doesn't appeal to his creative side because it's banqueting and he currently works in a prestigious fine dining restaurant (which he comes home from every night to tell me how much he hates) I'm being a bit of a bitch but frankly when we have a family to feed I don't care about bloody creativity I care about full bellies and a roof over our heads!
He's also tried to say he's scared it's not a secure job - it's a multi national company which has contracts for wedding venues, race courses, sports hospitality etc so I don't believe this for a second.
I feel like he's not understanding that we will be totally skint with a new baby, a mortgage and two (overly expensive) vehicle finance agreements which we can't get out of for another two years hanging over us! (Baby is making an appearance about 3 years earlier than intended- i wouldn't have bought a silly car if I realised what was in store)
What should I say to him to help him understand why I'm so angry / upset with him?
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Partner turned down job!
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MrsB44 · 22/10/2016 11:55
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