I love MNers, I think you are a fantastic group of people, smart, funny, courageous.
But AIBU to think that lots MNers need to stop being so bloody polite?
I keep reading threads where the OP's problem could be resolved if they just opened their mouths and said what they thought.
It's driving me up the wall!
Smart, intelligent women (and men) who end up being imposed upon by friends/families/colleagues and sometimes even complete strangers because they are unable to say no.
MNers doing childcare they don't want to for some piss taking friend because they don't want to upset them.
MNers who repeatedly host badly behaved playdates because they aren't prepared to pick up the phone can call the parents. Still haven't recovered from the MNer who said nothing when a child deliberately peed on the floor
MNers who have houseguests who long outstay their welcome, but won't give them notice.
MNers whose friends owe them money but won't ask for it back.
MNers who put up with being kissed/touched/hugged when they don't like it.
MNers who hate their DM/ MIL letting themselves into their house but won't address it/ask for the key back.
MNers whoses friends/sister/colleague is clearly out of mine but no says anything
I'm not talking about current threads. I've been on MN for years and I always seem to be saying the same things.
It is not better for you to be distressed/angry/uncomfortable/inconvenienced than to say what you think and risk an argument.
Your feelings are just as important and valuable as the other persons.
Assert yourself people of MN!
I know it's hard. It gets easier with practice.
I know it can be embarrassing. It gets easier if you esteem your own feelings above other people's.
I know conflict can be upsetting and difficult, but is it more upsetting and difficult than being continually used and abused?
Sometimes you need to have the argument/debate/discussion.
Saying "no" doesn't necessarily lead to arguments and drama. You can get away with a lot it you say it calmly, firmly and with a smile on your face. Practice in the mirror people.
We seem to be conditioned to avoid arguments at a detriment to our own well being. It makes me genuinely sad.
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AIBU?
Stop being so bloody polite!
49 replies
AmeliaJack · 21/10/2016 15:50
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21/10/2016 16:38
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