For the last 8 years, I have been attending taekwondo, on average once a week, but often less than that due to work and family commitments. In the past, I have given up hobbies and cases quite quickly but I have stuck with this due to the sheer joy I feel when I take part. I have worked my way up through gradings to reach different belts, I am fitter and stronger and I love helping teach others too. I am just below black belt now. I have never been a confident person but I temporarily do feel happy during these sessions. I am supposed to attend twice a week really, but don't have time.
I began these sessions when my son was just over a year old. He's nine now. My husband is at home when i am at tkd, looking after him. I appreciate I am buggering off for this hour and leaving them both, and I feel a bit guilty about it.
Sometimes, if I check with my husband whether it is ok for me to go ( I always check, just to ensure he knows where I am), he will object. He will sometimes say "oh for f*cks sake ... go on then". ( He doesn't always ... just if he's not in the best mood). He works shorter hours than I do and has a car, so it is up to him to pick our son up from school/ the childminders and take care of him in the evenings whilst I am out. He objects because it is ok for me, I can go somewhere straight after work if I want to, he doesn't get that choice. It's a similar story if some work colleagues want to meet after work and I want to join them ( which happens maybe 2/3 times a year). A reminder that he can't do that after work as he has to pick up our son. I don't really have many friends as I can't simply go out and meet them, it's a reminder of how unfair it all is on my husband. If I do go out on a night out, I would need to leave it a few months before going out again otherwise it just looks to him like i'm out getting pissed with my mates all the time. (I go out with friends about twice a year.)
If I had access to a car and could pick our son up, I would. Husband is against me having a car as it would be too expensive. I have repeatedly said if he would like to do something out of the house that he enjoys, I will ensure that I am in to look after our son so he can do so, even if I have to take work home. No, he says. He doesn't really like going out much himself.
Do other mums go out much and see people/ have interests? Or AIBU?
AIBU?
To attend TKD classes (and meet people after work sometimes)?
glassspider · 21/10/2016 08:24
I see friends once a week and generally go out for a run at the weekends and have a volunteer role as well, which can result in call outs at any time of day/night. DS is 9. DH is not as social as I am but we often have to sit and deconflict diaries and agree on who does what when there is a clash. DS sees both parents being active and social and generally happy. It's an hour a week on something that you clearly enjoy - you are allowed 'you' time and it is unreasonable for your DH to grumble about it. Stick to your guns and be proud of your achievements. Your DH is being a controlling arse. Good luck 
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