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AIBU to think she wasn't a young mum?

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limeandsoda93 Thu 20-Oct-16 15:44:21

There's a program on BBC1 in the afternoon with Aled Jones and he retraces steps of someone's life who then helps out someone else in need. In yesterday's episode it was a lady who was diagnosed with breast cancer when her daughter was still a baby. They kept referring to her as a 'young mum' eg 'today we follow the story of a young mum', 'battling cancer as a young mum'. Then they said that she was diagnosed aged 33. AIBU to say that she wasn't a young mum? I don't think 33 is old by any means but it didn't sound right to me. What would you class as a 'young mum'?

Mozfan1 Thu 20-Oct-16 15:46:06

I don't think 33 is particularly young for a mum but it's still young for a human being, iyswim.

WindInThePussyWillows Thu 20-Oct-16 15:46:33

I'm 22 and have 6 month old twins, I class myself as a young mum.

daisymai08 Thu 20-Oct-16 15:47:27

It's very young to have cancer!

weeblueberry Thu 20-Oct-16 15:47:58

I think I'd 'read' it as a young woman who was a mum. In those circumstances I think it's OK.

AGruffaloCrumble Thu 20-Oct-16 15:48:45

That's an average age for a mum isn't it? Scarily young to have cancer though. I am a young mum with two DDs at 22.

user1474627704 Thu 20-Oct-16 15:49:10

Well she's not an old mum, is she? Ergo......

What does it matter?

FlyingElbows Thu 20-Oct-16 15:49:53

I think they mean she was "young" and a "mum" not that she was a "young mum".

KERALA1 Thu 20-Oct-16 15:50:25

My friend described herself as a young mum - she is over 40! Slightly deluded mum more like but she's lovely so hey ho. Maybe they mean mum with young children?

limeandsoda93 Thu 20-Oct-16 15:53:02

Hmm yes I see what you are all saying about being young for the circumstances. I suppose that's how they meant it and I didn't really pick up on it!

potentialqualms Thu 20-Oct-16 15:53:15

I think often when people refer to a young mum they mean a mother of young children. They're wrong but that's what they mean!

flowery Thu 20-Oct-16 15:59:01

In these circumstances they meant she is young and also a mum.

Leopard12 Thu 20-Oct-16 16:01:09

I'd say young parent is under 25 when they have the first, young family I'd think would be young kids not necessarily young patents.

StrawberryQuik Thu 20-Oct-16 16:02:04

My DM had breast cancer when she was 42 and whenever I tell a gp this they say 'that's very young' it's young for cancer, plus she has young it makes sense to call her a young mum.

StrawberryQuik Thu 20-Oct-16 16:02:26

(She's fine now)

user1474627704 Thu 20-Oct-16 16:07:03

I think they mean she was "young" and a "mum" not that she was a "young mum"

Exactly this. The programme wasn't about her having a baby, was it?

Kintan Thu 20-Oct-16 16:07:13

I would think 'young mum' in that context meant the mother of young children rather than a mother who was younger than average.

Clankboing Thu 20-Oct-16 16:07:48

I guess it means she was early in motherhood. Or it may have been a 50 year old who wrote the script, so she was young to that person. Either way, she has our sympathy.

twattymctwatterson Thu 20-Oct-16 16:08:20

Yes because that's what you should be taking away from a segment about a 33 year old with cancer

FiniteIncantatum Thu 20-Oct-16 16:10:01

Completely off topic but I was 22 when I had DD and didn't think of myself as a "young mum". I would say a young Mum is maybe 19/20 and under.

Anyway, yes OP I agree with the majority that it was meant young woman who is a Mum.

charlestonchaplin Thu 20-Oct-16 16:10:23

A young woman who is also a mum. You didn't really expect them to keep saying that, did you?

BalloonSlayer Thu 20-Oct-16 16:10:52

"young mum" sometimes is shorthand for "mum of young children." It saves 3 syllables although it is not strictly correct

OldBootNewBoots Thu 20-Oct-16 16:11:34

it's slightly imprecise and open to misinterpretation but in the context i couldn't get exercised about it.

minipie Thu 20-Oct-16 16:11:39

They meant young for someone with cancer not young when she had her baby.

Because if you heard "a mum battling with cancer" you might well think of someone in their 50s or 60s.

ReallyTired Thu 20-Oct-16 16:14:32

A 33 year old is in the prime of her life. DH's aunt was 33 years old when she died of cancer. She left three young boys under six years old. The situation was truely hideous. It happens over 40 years ago and my FIL has never got over losing his sister.

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