Hi All,
Just the title really I have no idea how to go about making a decision that will change our lives hugely. There are pros but just as many cons.
DP and I have been married a few years now and in the next few years would like to have children but we don't know where to live.
We are currently in the Uk but both from different cities else where. DP is adumant he doesn't want to raise children here, I don't see a problem with raising them here apart from having no family around.
I'm so worried about moving. I moved here as I wanted happy, have been here for years and years. I find it very difficult to make friends and surprisingly have a great group of friends here which I can't imagine not being around. I have a couple f friends at home and obviously none in DPs country.
We both have decent enough paying jobs here if we have kids here I would take a pay cut but am fairly confident of work (self employed) other places job not as in demand so would take a substantial pay cut and not confident would get work in chosen field but could change jobs to similar one which I don't enjoy as much but would at least be reliable work.
I hate the idea of children growing up with no grandparents, cousins, aunties uncles etc.
DP says if we don't like it we can just move back - I don't think it's that simple.
I don't know what to do. So please talk me through how you all make huge life choices.
Thanks
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Squiffy01 · 15/10/2016 12:26
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