about the child at soft play...

(18 Posts)
guiltynetter Sat 15-Oct-16 11:25:26

I was at a soft play with my DD last week and we were being tailed by a little boy aged around 2/3. he was following us (my DD isn't confident to do it alone yet) but he also had a lollipop in his mouth. he was running around, jumping etc, at one point he fell forward with it in his mouth but luckily to the side so the lolly didn't go down his throat. I couldn't help thinking oh my god...take the lollipop out! it's so dangerous. I looked for his mum and saw her sat at a table with a laptop not even looking up. I felt partly responsible for this little boy as he was with us all the time. my point is would you have said anything to the mum about the lolly? am I being unreasonable and totally pfb when I say I wouldn't let my DD do it in a million years?

Gatehouse77 Sat 15-Oct-16 11:30:03

I wouldn't let mine have a lollipop when when running around.
I wouldn't have said anything to the parent but found an excuse to go for a drink or something to create a bit of distance.

lionsleepstonight Sat 15-Oct-16 11:31:38

Yes, you were right to be concerned. I think I'd have pointed it out to a member of staff, as I'm sure there's a no food rule at soft play.

Eyeslikesheepsfannys1 Sat 15-Oct-16 11:31:39

I would definately of said something to the mother because if anything happened to the little boy I would never forgive myself

Afreshstartplease Sat 15-Oct-16 11:32:04

I wouldn't let my DC do it

I might warn the child to be careful while in her earshot

Murphysgirl Sat 15-Oct-16 11:33:33

I probably would have said to the child that I was worried he might hurt himself and why doesn't he let him mum look after his lolly whilst he's playing. If he'd kept it I would then have moved away as it would have made me too anxious to see.

Taylor22 Sat 15-Oct-16 11:35:00

Food is not allowed in any of the soft plays I've been to. I would've told a member of staff that it could be a risk to other children with allergies.

Soubriquet Sat 15-Oct-16 11:37:00

Oh god. It would have been so hard to keep quiet about that.

But kept quiet I would have done as it was none of my business

I would have kept a close eye on him though

Soubriquet Sat 15-Oct-16 11:37:50

Oh he's good point re food

Food is usually not allowed in the equipment area so you could report to them and let them deal with it

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve Sat 15-Oct-16 11:39:18

I would have taken it off him and marched up to his mother and told her why. But I'm a hot head. The child's safety would be worth making a twat of myself.

WorraLiberty Sat 15-Oct-16 11:39:43

I would definitely have told a staff member.

mummysmummy Sat 15-Oct-16 11:41:08

I take my grandchildren to soft play, both under four. I am always amazed and shocked by the lack of parental responsibility some parents display. for some, as soon as they cross the threshold, parental obligation flies out of the window. particularly with older,bigger children being allowed to rampage through the under three area. meanwhile the parent(s) are enjoying a coffee and half an hour on their mobile phone. having said that, their parental radar is still in overdrive as they seem able to fly across the room in an instant if anyone should dare to ask their child not to hit or push another.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve Sat 15-Oct-16 11:41:34

*But kept quiet I would have done as it was none of my business

I would have kept a close eye on him though*

This is probably a better reaction grin

Discopanda Sat 15-Oct-16 11:48:08

YANBU! Agree with PPs about telling a staff member. Obviously the mum had to do a bit of work or check emails or whatever but she should have made sure her child was safe and in her periphery

SmellySphinx Sat 15-Oct-16 11:50:06

If it were me I'd have taken the little boy to his Mum said we'll just leave this lolly with Mummy...
I'm scared he might fall over with it or that it could get stuck in their hair while playing smile.

Sorted

He might have picked it up from somewhere or the Mum was absent minded!

woowoowoo Sat 15-Oct-16 11:57:54

I would have gently taken it off him, explained why it was dangerous, and then taken it to his mum and told her that he had fallen over with it in his mouth. Hopefully, the incident would not have needed any further explanation.

I am one who cannot just stand by and watch an accident waiting to happen, much to my DC's embarrassment! I recently stopped my car in the street when I saw a young girl swinging a cat round. I told her that the cat didn't like it and to put it down. Her mum came to the bathroom window and shouted, "what do you want?" In a very aggressive tone. I calmly explained that I had told her child to stop swinging the cat round in circles at it was cruel. She just said, "Oh right, ok," and closed the window shame faced.

My husband thinks I'm turning into an old battle axe but I don't care. Too many people just sit back tutting and then wonder why accidents happen.

guiltynetter Sat 15-Oct-16 12:36:38

I did say to him 'why don't you carry your lollipop in your hand' etc etc but he wasn't willing or didn't understand. I really wanted to say something to the mum but I didn't know if I would be being unreasonable, I'm basically questioning her parenting :-/

deathandtaxes123 Sat 15-Oct-16 13:18:00

Soft Play is Lord of the Flies by another name.

YANBU to be worried. I'd never give my DC lollipops like that....although I am paranoid

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