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to not want to dress ds in pink?

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PrinceHansOfTheTescoAisles Fri 14-Oct-16 18:04:01

It's Breast Cancer Awareness Day at school next week and ds (7) has been told he has to wear pink. Now I know I risk being flamed for gender stereotyping my children but he has nothing pink. He wouldn't wear anything pink. Do I really have to buy something pink just so he can wear it for that day (his suggestion of red and white stripes was rejected by his teacher)? I'm not totally sold on the pinkification of breast cancer anyway and am not sure how the school is planning to raise awareness. If they can do it in an age appropriate and sensitive way, fine. If it's in a vague fbook "we're raising awareness by being aware of awareness" way I'd rather they didn't bother. AIBU?

HaPPy8 Fri 14-Oct-16 18:05:52

Yanbu. It would be madness to have to buy something especially. Be better to donate the cash!

HaPPy8 Fri 14-Oct-16 18:06:14

And I'm sure lots of parents in same position.

ShelaghTurner Fri 14-Oct-16 18:06:42

Yabu if you don't want him to wear pink because he's a boy. Yanbu if he simply doesn't own anything pink, no point buying something especially for that. Can't he just bring in a pound and dress as normal? Our school have dress up days but aren't fussed if you don't want to take part.

CockacidalManiac Fri 14-Oct-16 18:07:49

Bloody 'raising awareness' bullshit. As if people aren't aware of cancer.

Ilovewheelychairs Fri 14-Oct-16 18:08:18

I'd dress him in whatever he wants and stick a pink breast cancer ribbon on maybe? They're doing it for the donations anyway so what he's wearing is irrelevant really!

Trifleorbust Fri 14-Oct-16 18:08:34

Dye a white t-shirt? Or don't send him in.

MLGs Fri 14-Oct-16 18:09:55

No, don't buy him anything specially.

Red and white stripes sounds fine to me, silly teacher. Do you have anything faded red that might do?

Alternatively, could he just wear a breast cancer pin badge or similar to show support?

FlabulousChic Fri 14-Oct-16 18:10:52

Get a pink ribbon or a breast cancer badge for a pound and let him wear that

Get a t-shirt in a colour he does like, and use fabric pens or a stencil or something to write on it:

'This t-shirt is pink!' - as a jokey way around the problem.

Cookingongas Fri 14-Oct-16 18:12:24

We did the punk day today. The boys largely wore normal clothes here with (or indeed without) a pink ribbon pin , which the school sold £1.

schokolade Fri 14-Oct-16 18:12:25

Friend/neighbour /cousin you could borrow off?

Failing that shove his best white shirt in the machine with a red sock grin

reallyanotherone Fri 14-Oct-16 18:13:52

Plain white t and write "men get breast cancer too" on it in Marker pen.

Make the point that the whole pink for breast cancer charade, where pink = female, and men are excluded from fundraising runs etc, actually decreases awareness of breast cancer in men.

PrinceHansOfTheTescoAisles Fri 14-Oct-16 18:13:58

Shelagh It's less that I don't want him to wear pink, it's more that he doesn't want to. Despite my best efforts, my children have some very binary ideas about gender and at 7, he has very definite ideas about what he wants to wear.

He wore hot pink t-shirts when he was a toddler but he owns nothing even close to pink at the moment. I wouldn't object if he saw something he liked in pink but he wouldn't go out of his way to buy pink IYSWIM

WingsofNylon Fri 14-Oct-16 18:14:07

Put him in a pair of your pink socks? Or pink scarf?

Don't buy something, that would be crazy.

PrinceHansOfTheTescoAisles Fri 14-Oct-16 18:16:48

reallyanotherone I wish I had the balls (no pun intended) to do that!

Maybe a white t-shirt with a pink ribbon on it would be a good way round it. Then I'm donating twice. But I don't see them fundraising for the less photogenic cancers hmm

FurryLittleTwerp Fri 14-Oct-16 18:17:36

I'd probably buy a very cheap white t-shirt & dye it pink.

DS when through a tie-dye phase aged about 5 & I bought cotton t-shirts from Boyes at about £1 each.

FurryLittleTwerp Fri 14-Oct-16 18:17:55

*went through not when through

AmeliaJack Fri 14-Oct-16 18:19:01

Buy badge, ribbon or wristband in support of breast cancer and have him wear that. Or send him
In school uniform.

If he is prepared dress down/wear specific colours/costumes for other charities (e.g. Red Nose Day) I'd be having a conversation with him about why he wasn't prepared to do the same for a charity which largely impacts women.

If he refused I'd tell him that's fine but he goes in uniform.

Redglitter Fri 14-Oct-16 18:19:52

If he doesn't want to wear pink that's reason enough not to make him. He can be just as aware of cancer what ever colour he wears

Hulababy Fri 14-Oct-16 18:20:29

Pink ribbon pinned to his plain t shirt.
Pink badge/sticker on his top.

ByeByeLilSebastian Fri 14-Oct-16 18:20:45

Yanbu if it makes him feel uncomfortable.
Would he wear a ribbon round his wrist or spray his hair pink?

Witchend Fri 14-Oct-16 18:23:34

I had the same issue for dd1 when we had "blue for water" day. She had nothing that was blue. In the end she ended up with one of dh's t-shirts under a pinafore and a blue hair ribbon.

Justwanttoweeinpeace Fri 14-Oct-16 18:25:17

I'd borrow a pink tee from someone. Pop it on at the school gate - over the top of his regular teeshirt. Once he's in their hands it's up to them to keep it on him grin

Vanillaradio Fri 14-Oct-16 18:45:48

I don't do pink either. I have a T shirt that says "black is the new pink" which I wore in similar circumstances at work. Could you find something similar?

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