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How to meet other lone parents

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OhhBetty Fri 14-Oct-16 06:58:16

Sorry for posting here, I posted on the lone parents board but had no replies.

I'm just looking for advice please on how to meet other lone parents. There is a fb page for the city near me but it isn't up to much!
I do have a very lovely group of friends but I'm struggling with not having anyone who understands what it's like to be a lone parent. They're all either pregnant with or trying for their second babies and I feel like they're all moving forward and I'm just stuck! I feel a bit pushed to one side since becoming single (ex cheated again and I kicked him out). They all say things like "ohh next year we'll all have two babies". Or talk about theit families becoming complete. I know they don't mean it to be hurtful, but it is. I feel like ds and I aren't a valid family to them.

I'd love to meet people in the same boat but I've no idea how!

baggysoobs Fri 14-Oct-16 07:04:11

I don't know but know exactly what you mean. I struggle as feel I am constantly moaning at them. I just don't think anyone who has not been in the situation understands how hard it is doing it all on your own and being stuck in every night. I suspect my kids are older so my friends social lives are back up and running. I go out about once every 3 months!!

OhhBetty Fri 14-Oct-16 07:55:39

It's so hard isn't it! I had one of them compare her husband being away for 4 days to my situation! Ds is 19 months and his dad won't have him unless I'm at work as he doesn't like me to socialise alone in case I shag someone!

Also from a financial perspective, I'm now quite poor. They're all well off and just don't understand I can't afford many outings. For example in the summer I suggested the park for a few hours but they all would rather go to somewhere you pay for plus lunch out. Obviously they go with the majority so ends up being ds and I alone.

Squirmy65ghyg Fri 14-Oct-16 08:07:36

They sound pretty insensitive OP.

People have no idea what it is like, the whole "DH is away overnight waah" infuriates me as it shows a lack of thought for my situation. I also have "friends" who are jealous I have grandparents nearby and think this means I have baby sitters at the drop of a hat.

Try gingerbread for their groups?

OhhBetty Fri 14-Oct-16 08:32:53

They can be but I don't think they mean to be. Yes the jealousy! They're jealous of me having nights "to myself" when ds isn't here. That's one night a fortnight where I work until 10pm the Saturday night and start work at 6am Sunday morning!

I've never heard of gingerbread but have now registered and there is a group about 18 miles from me. Thanks so much!

ClopySow Fri 14-Oct-16 08:52:59

I met a lot of other parents taking my children to mother and toddler groups. Some lone parents, some not.

Squirmy65ghyg Fri 14-Oct-16 09:53:25

No problem!

OhhBetty Fri 14-Oct-16 10:48:22

I hate the parent and toddler groups! Round here it's usually people going in their already established friendship groups and don't talk to others! As hard as I tried making conversation was like drawing blood from a stone grin

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