So tonight my son has received a bit of a torrent of abuse via whatsapp from a boy he previously went to school with. It started off with him telling him to "F off", followed by nobody likes you, you have no friends, you are adopted-surprised anyone even took you! Tomorrow I'm going to beat you up, you are so gay etc etc etc.
I was sat next to my son on the sofa so I saw every message come through & the replies he sent back (which were very mature I must say maybe because I was watching! Another boy jumped on the band wagon & joined in the abuse. I could tell my son was really upset, husband done the "manly" bit & said the boy didn't have the guts to beat him up etc etc but I think the damage was already done.
So as not to drip feed; my son has just started secondary school (year 7) in September, he was only 11 in August though. He went to school with the instigator from reception up to year 6 and they were best friends until about March/April of this year..literally in each other's pockets until this point. He made a point of not inviting my son to his party in June but then inviting everybody else & telling him how much fun they had/were having for weeks on end. He pushed my son socially out of all their joint groups & basically made my sons last term at school shit!! So much so, that we celebrated when school finished in July!
Me & my husband believe the boy is jealous because my son passed the 11+ & got the school place they both wanted. I know it sounds ridiculous but his parents were very pushy, he done lots of tuition but ultimately failed very badly, the boy (&his parents) was distraught! The boys didn't have a big row or falling out over anything, it was so bad the school even noticed it. The only thing that ties in time wise is the release of results & school places.
Now as they were such good friends I know his parents & extended family quite well. We have never socialised together though.
They are generally a nice family & I think his mum would be mortified if she knew half of what he's said.. I think the boy can be a bit of a sheep & goes with the flock to "look cool" or "impress" others.
I bit my tongue last term because my husband & son said I would make it worse if I spoke to his mum (& husband thought the boys would get over it & then I'd look like a silly over controlling mum!!!)
Now I am so angry over what's happened this evening, I really want to speak to his mum tomorrow, what should I do??
Unfortunately as they still attend scouts & rugby together simply "blocking" him on social media won't cut it. Would it be unfair to contact her regarding her sons social media use?!
Just as a side note, my son isn't adopted & is generally a really happy confident boy with lots of friends so I think these comments have really hurt him.
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RandomName9 · 13/10/2016 23:54
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