I am the only driver in our family and I'm a sahm to a toddler and teen stepchildren. My partner works full time but over 3 or 4 days a week, so long shifts.
She often hints to me for lifts home when no colleagues who live nearby can offer her a lift. She finishes work at 7.30pm, when I want to be getting into the bedtime routine for the toddler. Picking her up would obviously mean taking the toddler out too, either getting ready for bed first or pushing bedtime back until we return. I'm not keen to do this as it's roughly a 25 min round trip for me.
Partner can get a bus right outside the workplace, 10 mins after shift ends, a 15 min journey and then a 5 min walk home.
I used to sometimes do this pick up before we had the toddler as a 25 min journey isn't that big a deal. But now, the timing is really awkward so I try to refuse. I feel mean not doing it but do tell myself that a 15 min bus ride and 5 min walk is not that big a deal and many adults commute more, and more often than 3-4x per week.
DP never actually moans at me for not doing it but often moans about it taking 'ages' to get home and being shattered and sometimes phones up and puts on a 'poor me' voice about how long it's going to take to get home and how nice it would be to get home to see the toddler before bedtime.
Am I being a cow for not doing it? It tends to be approximately 2-3 times a week, depending on her other lift options.
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PrunesforElla · 11/10/2016 19:09
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