My brother and I recently inherited our parent’s house after the death of our father. I had been living in the house for a year whilst my father was in and out of hospital in order to visit easily– my brother also came back earlier this year and lived in the house due to a job change and similarly to visit. I am 29 and he is 32.
We had planned to simply decorate the house, and fix a few minor things like old window frames, before selling and splitting the money to each buy our own first homes. However, it has become clear that my brother assumed we would stay in the house until late next year, as that is when his contract ends and he wishes to relocate and buy a house when he has a new job.
My job is in the local area, where house prices are going up at a rate of knots, and I wish to speedily prepare the house and sell it, settle down with my partner and begin a family.
We have talked about this, and my brother is worried that if we sell now he will be forced to rent locally (and expensively) for some months, which he feels is a waste of his money.
I feel as though his arrangements are not my responsibility, and I should not put my life on hold for a year to suit his.
We left it that we would carry on thinking about what to do that would suit us both.
Who, if either of us, is being unreasonable? Things are not awkward or difficult as I love him, we get along very well and enjoy living together, and have so much to do in the house currently that it makes no difference at this stage. However I’m scared of awkwardness in the future and I want to move on with my life, but don’t want to trample his rights.
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ticktockticktockticktock · 11/10/2016 16:12
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