To tell my mum she's taking the piss?

(235 Posts)
KungFuPandaWorksOut Tue 11-Oct-16 14:05:43

I'm a hairdresser who is currently on Mat leave. My mum meets up with her old university friends a couple of times a year and makes a night of it. She asked at the weekend could I do her hair and four of her friends hair for Tonight. I told her no problem but I will charge her friends but not salon price ( I always do my mums for free) she asked me do I know how much it would cost. I told her without exactly knowing what they want doing I wouldn't be able to give a price. She said she thinks majority will have a wash,cut and blow and maybe an updo. I told her call it £15.00 each then if they don't have updo £10. She said that's brilliant.
Now ive just recieved a text off my mum saying how excited her and her girls are to have a "pampering" with me and such a bargain for only £30.
I am so annoyed that my mums pulled this stunt. But now she's told her friends it's £30 collectively so I'm going to look a massive twat saying no it's £15 each if you have an updo!
Would IBU to tell her to piss off angry
She's due at 3 o'clock and I'm half tempted not too answer the door!!

Mylittlelights Tue 11-Oct-16 14:06:51

I would text her back and say that's £15 + per person excluding her.

LilQueenie Tue 11-Oct-16 14:08:09

I was about to say maybe they dont want the updo but even then that would be £40. Yes call her on it or go out so you dont have to answer if she gets difficult.

Caken Tue 11-Oct-16 14:09:06

YANBU, you shouldn't ever have to do 'mates rates' if you don't want. You were already doing them a favour by doing it cheaper, very bad of her to be so cheeky.

Tell her to recoup the cost of the extra discount she's decided to give, you'll have to now charge her. £30 for doing hair for 5 people is insane. Your mum is insane!

FauxFox Tue 11-Oct-16 14:09:39

Just don't do any hair-up dos - say you haven't time.

scootinFun Tue 11-Oct-16 14:10:43

Text back that you're looking forward to it too, and thrilled that she's upped the price per person to £30 each - how generous. If she tries to say no- it's £30 for all-, just say you quoted £15 per person smile

KayTee87 Tue 11-Oct-16 14:12:42

Text her back saying 'no mum, it's £10 each minimum and £15 each if they want an up-do. Sorry but I'm not doing it for less as it's going to take about 3 hours'

flanjabelle Tue 11-Oct-16 14:13:24

Hi mum, you seem to have got in a muddle about the price. It is £10 each per person, or £15 if having an updo. Make sure your friends know as you wouldn't want to embarrass them at all. Love op.

melibu84 Tue 11-Oct-16 14:13:40

Was this a group text? Maybe double check how many people are coming. If it's only 3 people, and they're not having updos, then it is only £30 . . .

KayTee87 Tue 11-Oct-16 14:14:12

Just saw the bit about cut too!! In that case it would probably take you 4 hours. £10-£15 each is soo cheap!

MargotLovedTom Tue 11-Oct-16 14:17:08

Ring her and say it'll be at least £10 each depending on the work, so at least £40, and £60 if they want up dos.. Ring her.

MargotLovedTom Tue 11-Oct-16 14:18:40

Blimey, yes - cut as well?!! You'll be on for ages, and what if one or more doesn't like their hair once you've cut it?!

KungFuPandaWorksOut Tue 11-Oct-16 14:23:06

Mel nope all 4 friends so that's 5 total.

i have done all their hair at some point just not all together and normally in the salon so it's salon priced. Be about 4 hours in total if they are having updos why they are arriving at 3 and getting ready here. The bit she's put about pampering has thrown me I'm only doing their hair unless she's said I'll help with makeup and other bits angry
Yeah but she's told them it's £30 all together and I know she won't put the extra too sad

Arfarfanarf Tue 11-Oct-16 14:27:39

then say no.

You are in control here.

You only get walked over if you let it happen.

You can say no mum, I was very clear about what I would charge. If you do not make it clear then you will be very embarrassed when they arrive because I will be asking for the price I quoted and only doing what I offered to do. Hair £10 each, updo £15 each. Anything else was not discussed and I will charge extra. I feel like you are taking advantage of me to be frank. It's not ok.

You really need to decide if you are going to roll over or not. If you choose to - then find a way to be ok with your choice. That's all you can do. You're in control here.

RoseanneDownton Tue 11-Oct-16 14:33:53

Just be casual and lighthearted about it.

Say "Hi mum, you seem to have got in a muddle about the price...."

Do NOT go along with it!

Lemonlady22 Tue 11-Oct-16 14:34:05

text back and say your ill! NOW!

MoreGilmoreGirls Tue 11-Oct-16 14:34:08

You need to tell her she is mistaken it's £15 each, don't let her walk all over you!

mycatstares Tue 11-Oct-16 14:35:32

That's so cheeky. I'd text her back and say the price you arranged and if she still isn't going to play ball then do all of her friends hair but not your mother's hair. That should balance out the time and price issue.

TheCatsMother99 Tue 11-Oct-16 14:36:32

Does she have form for doing things like this? That's seriously cheeky and unfair of her to put you in that position.

MargotLovedTom Tue 11-Oct-16 14:37:50

Please assert yourself.

KungFuPandaWorksOut Tue 11-Oct-16 14:38:24

I sent back too her
" oh so no updos then? And which friend thinks she's cutting a freebie then haha. It's £10 each without the updo x "

She's responded back with
" we are running a bit late be there 3.30ish "

hmm maybe she sent that as I sent mine

SapphireStrange Tue 11-Oct-16 14:40:28

Don't let them get comfortable before you say 'I think my mum misunderstood the price – can I make sure everyone knows it'll be £10 each, £15 with updo?' you won't see them for dust

Make it very clear it's your mum's mistake, not yours.

Floggingmolly Tue 11-Oct-16 14:41:11

I'm obviously in the minority, but; I'd do it for them as a favour. Or is that just our family?

LilQueenie Tue 11-Oct-16 14:41:25

omg refuse and land her in it in front of her friends. Sounds harsh but either that or she will walk over you time and again.

NoncommittalToSparkleMotion Tue 11-Oct-16 14:41:31

What Roseanne said.

No way should she do that to you.

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