This is an AIBU and a request for advice.
I have a friend, we've known one another at a distance for a few years but got closer due to living near each other and having some shared interests etc.
She doesn't have family nearby and going through a horrible divorce.
Our DDs also similar in age and enjoy playing together.
However, I feel increasingly drained. she messages me constantly about what her husband has / hasn't done, there is hardly ever a hi, how are you, she will just launch into it.
She will also turn up and launch straight into her monologue about whatever the latest frustration is regardless of what I'm doing, who else is in my house or what I'm doing with my child etc.
I really really like her and know she is very stressed but I'm feeling increasingly irritated with the invasion and lack of awareness of others.
I had a little get together with friends last week, one who has a life limiting condition and she was coming out with histrionics like 'I can't live like this, my life is so bad'
Everyone understands and wants to support and be there for her but it's getting hard to feel any empathy because there is room for nothing else.
AIBU for feeling like this? I really want to stay feeling positive and friendly but it's feeling difficult to tolerate the continual invasions of histrionics.
I am trying to set boundaries gently but she seems to take it personally a bit and responds it's veiled insults.
I haven't shared this with anyone, but I'm struggling. I feel sad as I like and value our friendship. Perhaps it'll be easier when the divorce is through, however she is locked into drama with her husband and I feel like I can't take anymore.
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AIBU?
To be inceasingly irritated by this friend
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MyPeriodFeatures · 10/10/2016 21:18
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