Bit of back story. When my DS turned 18, I made him an album as a gift, showing highlights from his childhood. Photo's of birthdays, christmases, achievements of his, like karate belts etc. Took it right from his scan photo's up until present day. About 50 photo's in all. ExH had all the photo's of him, aged zero to 11, as we split when he was 11, and rather than be petty and rifle through family photo's and divide them up at the time of separation, I just left them at the house (I was the one moving). I had to ask ExH over and over for the photo's of DS aged zero to 11. He kept refusing, saying that it was my own fault, for leaving them behind. After months of reasoning begging with him (he enjoyed the power, I think), he finally gave me the photo's. I had them professionally copied for the album and returned the originals to ExH. Unbelievably, when the day of DS birthday was nearing, ExH got in touch, to say that me and DH should not take DS to lunch (where we were to do presents), and that I should make DH stay home, and he would come instead and help me present the album "we" had made. Needless to say, this did not happen!
Anyway, fast forward to now, and DD is about to turn 18. So, I want to do an album for her too. In fact, I need to, as you can't do it for one and not the other. I have texted ExH four times (nicely) asking for photo's. He doesn't reply. In the end, I texted my DS, and asked him that when he is next visiting ExH (today), please can he get a selection of photo's for me. DS knows where they are (in a wardrobe, all clearly labelled). He replies to say, that his Dad has copied the photo's and when I go to lunch today with DD (who I am picking up from his), she will hand me an envelope thinking it's old post for me, which will in fact contain the photo's. Great.
I've just got home and opened the envelope. ExH has photo copied photographs, on non-photographic paper, on a printer that is running out of ink, so the "photo's" are blurred and have those faded lines running all through them, the way that happens when the ink is almost out. Not usable in any way, shape or form. Almost like he is saying "look what you could have had".
Is this not the most fucking pathetic passive aggressive behaviour? He knows I will now have to repeat the cycle of asking for the bastard photo's. It's been 8 years since we split. It's hardly fresh. He has done with with SO many things since we split. It's really wearing me down.
Sorry, I know it's a bit boring, but bloody hell I'm tired of this. 
AIBU?
Or is this passive aggressive bullshit?
HuskyLover1 · 08/10/2016 16:50
Sorry for the typos!
DH s bringing in a Chinese and I am going to have 
with a straw and watch X factor, to cheer myself up.
Wow jean but can you now get the memory stick and copy all the photo's from it and get all of your photo's back? WIN !! 
Oh, Husky, thank you so much for telling me! That's perfect .
It'll be a nice project for me over the winter, and might even stop me wasting spending so much time on MN 
Ha ha ha. You can also take the memory stick to Asda, and get the pics printed whilst you wait. They normally have the machine just inside the doorway.
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