Very stressful situation and quite outting, so this may be a little vague.
Had a letter about DS2's EHCP situation this morning, the thrust of which we were quite unhappy about. Something we had thought was sorted appeared to be sorted in a way we weren't happy with, iyswim. Can't do anything about it until Monday, so stress over the weekend.
DH moaned when I was worried, irritated that I would "have a panic attack over it" now and ruin the weekend, which annoyed me as I have done the lion's share of the research, letter writing, meeting plannings, paperwork etc around the EHCP and the prolonged stress has left me in a very precarious MH state. IMO the EHCP is worth worrying about. Massively so, as the letter today proved.
Anyway, he kept saying that it was probably nothing, and the way they word everyone's letter. I agreed, or thought I had, and we went out and although I was worried, I didn't talk about it again until we got home. Once home, I didn't mention it to DH again, but I chatted to a friend of mine who has been through a similar situation, someone who has been massively supportive to me throughout this. She said that she too had had the same letter with the same wording and that it was just standard stuff.
I told DH this, and he was really upset with me. Apparently because it was the same thing he said, I should have believed him and not needed to consult my friend. Apparently, I didn't trust him, but I trusted my friend.
I said that yes, I had thought what he said was likely, but neither he or I knew for certain, and so I asked someone with experience, who confirmed it. It wasn't a question of who I believed or trusted more. But he is really hurt now, and off with me.
I think he's being a bit daft, but was I insensitive?
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Was I insensitive or was DH being ridiculous?
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Laura223939 · 08/10/2016 16:48
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