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AIBU?

To not have moved on from the referendum result?

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Niamer · 06/10/2016 22:04

Hi. I am a remoaner. I have bored myself with talking about it online and with a couple of likeminded friends.
I was have never been political, was pretty disengaged before the referendum but a 100% gut-feeling kind of a remainer and really expected the vote to go our way.
Felt devastated at the result; I am a believer in working closely with our neighbours, have lived in other Eu countries, have friends here from other EU countries who feel unwelcome etc etc. AND all the attachment to Europe stuff aside, it just seemed a far safer economic option to stay put. Why go for a bumpy ride when you don't even like where you're going? Also felt really cheated when people's reasons for leaving became clear.
I am amazed that some Remainers have just gone quiet and got weary of it all. As far as Leave voters, there has been plenty of "suck it up" comments and total quiet from others. It hasn't been long but time is not healing for me. In fact the Tory conference seemed to take the grimness up a notch. Still so upset and wanting to protest (and have done in every way that I can think of)
I am currently in groups with staunch Remainers like myself, so I know how they are feeling. Outside of that, it isn't an easy topic to discuss. Remainers, Leavers, non-voters, please could you tell me where you're at? TIA

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Topseyt · 06/10/2016 22:09

Remain. I haven't moved on either. If the referendum happened again I would still vote remain and I have seen nothing to persuade me otherwise.

I am sure you will get a variety of opinions though, and perhaps the thread will be moved to the EU Referendum section.

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Cocklodger · 06/10/2016 22:09

Remain I really think where I live (lots of gov subsidies) will be in the shit. Brexit is the main reason we've decided to emigrate (both British born and white, so not in the target groups for racism and xenophobia but still can't stand it)

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Cocklodger · 06/10/2016 22:10

Sorry lots of eu subsidies

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NiceCuppaTeaAndASitDown · 06/10/2016 22:11

I'm a remainer and still devastated

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VeryBitchyRestingFace · 06/10/2016 22:12

I'm planning to leave the country in 2020.

That's if O Caledonia hasn't already left the UK. Smile

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Niamer · 06/10/2016 22:13

Thank you, both. I deliberately put it NOT in the EU referendum section to guage opinion of everyone, not just those really engaged in it all still.

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FetchezLaVache · 06/10/2016 22:13

Yep, me too. Actually more devastated if anything, now it looks like we'll be going for hard Brexit.

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BananaPie · 06/10/2016 22:15

I wanted to stay in. But the decision is made. I think we need to move on and get the best possible deal we can for Brexit. No real point in trying to turn the decision around.

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RealityCheque · 06/10/2016 22:15

YABU. Accept democracy and stop whinging. It's really not the end of the world.

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ilovesooty · 06/10/2016 22:15

I haven't moved on from it either. It doesn't feel any better than it did on the day of the result.

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Niamer · 06/10/2016 22:16

"Thank you ALL", that should have said.

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ilovesooty · 06/10/2016 22:17

I was going to say it won't be long before people come along to tell us to accept the democratic vote.

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JayDot500 · 06/10/2016 22:18

It's just all so very sad Sad

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MillionToOneChances · 06/10/2016 22:18

remoaner Grin

I'm definitely a 'remoaner', too. I'm devestated at the injustice of it. Yes, there were people who were staunch brexiters no matter what anyone said. But so many people were taken in by the bald-faced lies of the Brexit team, and I simply can't accept that the result can stand when they all recanted their lies as soon as the vote was counted. Angry

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Topseyt · 06/10/2016 22:19

Aha, I see the "stop whinging" brigade are already out. Knew it would happen.

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RealityCheque · 06/10/2016 22:21

I understand people think differently and were disappointed but 'devestated'? Really? Get a grip, and a life.

Overreaction, much?

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DiegeticMuch · 06/10/2016 22:21

I voted Remain. My side lost. Now we all need to focus on making the best of it. I really don't think (and never thought) that Brexit will be an economic disaster - like the OP I voted from the heart.

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DangerQuakeRhinoSnake · 06/10/2016 22:22

I'll add a 'cheer up it could be a lot worse' for you Grin

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fakenamefornow · 06/10/2016 22:23

Remain still. I have got to the point of thinking that we should just leave though, we're to stupid to be in the EU, we should just go and die of embarrassment in a corner somewhere.

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ilovesooty · 06/10/2016 22:23

It's not for other people to judge my feeling about it as an overreaction.

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FranHastings · 06/10/2016 22:23

I'm still devastated and pissed off at being told to accept it, pull together and move on. I haven't seen / read a single thing that persuades me it will be anything other than disastrous in many different ways.

I feel strongly I don't want to live here anymore. We will most likely stay, but I have had my eyes opened to the hatred and intolerance that bubbles below the surface and I don't like it at all.

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Niamer · 06/10/2016 22:25

Yes, but that is fine - I really just want honest opinions. I am interested to see if there are Leave voters feeling uncomfortable with the tone of the Tory conference? I can understand how people may have voted against the flaws of the EU , or to improve our NHS without wishing to end free movement. I do wonder if some Leavers are finding it as tough as we are.

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Niamer · 06/10/2016 22:26

Sorry I write a reply to someone then see 10 posts have appeared in the middle. Excuse the disjointed ramble!

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BlueFolly · 06/10/2016 22:27

I voted remain and was gutted at the result.

However all the people going on about having another vote etc etc have really made me cross and if there was another vote I would vote 'leave' in solidarity with all the people who's democratic decision had been ignored.

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engineersthumb · 06/10/2016 22:28

I am still absolutely shocked at the ref result. It's an absolute disaster in terms of economic, social and defense impacts. The leavers always sight "immigration" and "red tape" without any details on what takes its place. What really makes me sad is the xenophobic attitudes now featuring in mainstream politics.
The latest idea to make employers report how many "foreign" employees they have is an excellent example. Its the first stage to descriminating against all immigrants. My wife is a German national so would be effected by this, the fact she's been here 10years, holds a PHD, owns a house and has two children won't appear in the figures... just that they employ another non brit! It's a slippery slope.

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