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To want to ask DD's teacher whether her detention is fair..

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babychaos Wed 05-Oct-16 20:13:07

In DD's school, kids get detention if they forget their PE kit. DD (year 3, 7 years old) got given a detention for lunch break tomorrow for not having her PE kit today.
She took her PE kit in on Monday (as school requests, to leave it there all week) and put it in the box in her classroom. Today was their first PE session this week. She told the teacher she'd brought it in. The teacher said she must be mistaken as it wasn't there. Teacher suggested at pick up I could go to the classroom and check myself.
DD & I found her PE kit in a cloakroom on another floor in the school that gets used by wrap around care & after school activities/clubs. She's used neither this week. In all likelihood, one of her classmates took it there accidentally on Mon or Tues and left it there.
AIBU to think I should approach her teacher in the morning, let her know where we found it & ask if the detention still stands? I feel like DD is being punished for something she had no control over. Or am I being precious? smile

Flisspaps Wed 05-Oct-16 20:14:28

I was all set to say YWBU but after reading the post, then no, I don't think you're being unreasonable or precious.

ItsJustPaint Wed 05-Oct-16 20:15:04

Agree with fissplaps

miniplaty Wed 05-Oct-16 20:15:22

YANBU. I always challenge school decisions if I think they are not fair, it's good for kids to see you stand up for what you believe is right and not just accept things

Didijustgetwinkpointshitcanned Wed 05-Oct-16 20:16:19

Yanbu. I wouldn't be asking if it still stands either. I'd be politely telling teacher it doesn't stand.

StrawberriCream Wed 05-Oct-16 20:16:22

I also don't think it's fair to have detention. Also don't agree with if you don't have your kit you get detention my 7 year old only remembers as it stays at school all the time apart from half terms

SquinkiesRule Wed 05-Oct-16 20:16:59

Not being precious at all. She did as she was supposed to and left the PE kit in the right place, not her fault that it wasn't kept safe in the classroom, she isn't the adult here.

Wolfiefan Wed 05-Oct-16 20:17:04

I agree with Fliss too.
They get detention of they forget their kit? Fine. But she didn't forget her kit. It was at school.

AndNowItsSeven Wed 05-Oct-16 20:17:35

Yanbu , detention is ridiculous for primary school anyway. Why should they be punished when a parent forgets the pe kit. ( know that wasn't the case with yourself)
It's not a seven year olds responsibility.

booksandcoffee Wed 05-Oct-16 20:19:26


RockinHippy Wed 05-Oct-16 20:20:42


Strictly1 Wed 05-Oct-16 20:24:32

I'd politely have a word - I'm sure the detention will no longer stand.

babychaos Wed 05-Oct-16 20:24:50

Thanks. I also disagree with detention of you forget your PE kit (only year 3 and up), but it is what it is. I wondered whether that was clouding my judgement...

babychaos Wed 05-Oct-16 20:25:50


Heirhelp Wed 05-Oct-16 20:28:13

Detention in primary school! That is harsh.

sarahC40 Wed 05-Oct-16 20:38:54

Yanbu - if this had been my two boys, they would regularly have had detentions from the scrum to get to school in one piece. Stuff was always wandering at primary school. I'm a teacher and would happily say that's not her fault at all.

youarenotkiddingme Wed 05-Oct-16 20:55:35

She didn't forget her kit.

Someone else,took it from where she left it and left it elsewhere.

The ounishment is for forgetting.

You can do it politely but firmly.

Mrs/miss X. DD and I found her kit in this location yesterday. IT has clearly been moved by another student. I know dd won't be expected to do the detention now and to prevent further repeats and other children being upset can you remind pupils about checking their own kit and not touching/moving others stuff.

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