DS is 3.5, very enthusiastic and boisterious
I am under pressure for my time courses/bridesmaid duties/hospital appointments etc. I sometimes call on MIL to keep an eye on him while I go or get back. I also have MS and during exaccerbations I need a bit of assistance.
Thing is it's always shoe horned it around other requirements, usually the requirements of their older grandchild, and my FIL's overwhelming requirement to bowl 24/7. Everything is always rushed, there seems to be a lot of bad feeling and I don't think it does DS's attitude any good.
I am prepared to pay for ad hoc local childcare to give him a more calmer going on. I know it will upset MIL but the situation is not good.
I'm a tad miffed as SIL earns over 25K, I earn nothing but she has never considered paying for childcare. Her child seems of greater importance to the ILs During my last MS flare up (worst it had been for a while) I got no help as they had to collect, deliver the other grandchild and I had to cope alone.(yeah, I'm being bitter/jealous now) and as a result I'm prepared to pay so I don't feel DS is creating a problem and so we can have a more structured going on.
I constantly get 'I treat them both exactly the same' told to me when it's quite obvious the first grandchild gets the cake and DS just has to pick up the crumbs IYKWIM.
So am I being unreasonable seeking external childcare knowing it will upset MIL
and
AIBU feeling hurt by having to consider it?
Or maybe I just want a big whing
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Childcare for DS...Family offers a bit strained...I want to use paid for childcare now
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grouchyoscar · 07/02/2007 10:23
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