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to ask who among you has left Facebook and why?

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CoolToned · 05/10/2016 01:44

Do you regret it? Do you miss anything?

Do you get the urge to activate your profile?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 05/10/2016 01:47

DH did and doesn't miss it. He does get annoyed when his friends organise nights out and miss him because of FB invites.

He hates vapid, bullshit, vague nonsense. So FB then Grin

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gintymarlowe · 05/10/2016 01:51

someone maliciously reported my FB account as being fake. they said i was using a fake identity. complete rubbish but as i have no driving licence or passport finding ID is difficult. so i never got back in. i missed it at first but now i think i'm well out of it

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DoYouRememberJustinBobby · 05/10/2016 01:53

I did about 4 or 5 years ago. Vaguebooking and my family politics bored me. This was before you could remain friends on there but unfollow (I have an account for business, so I still know the ins and outs).

I'm not tempted to return and don't feel like I'm missing out in any way. I am on other social media and most of my friends are slowly moving away from FB too.

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HedgehogHedgehog · 05/10/2016 02:00

OMG i love facebook. People are so grumpy about it but i think as a concept its incredible, what a brilliant idea it is! Its kept me in contact with people all around the world. My family live across several countries and ive moved around so much ive never lived anywhere longer than three years in my entire life so for me its been amazing to keep in touch with people and to document all my memories which would otherwise be so fragmented. Ive got to know people on a deeper level than i ever would have realised in real life from just getting a general sense of their personality through their likes and dislikes and how they express themselves, what they post... ive then realised how interesting they are and gone on to forge real life friendships with them. Without facebook i may never have gotten the chance to know these people!

Even so i have left facebook a few times when im having a really bad time in my personal life and because i feel so low it makes me feel slightly invaded by facebook as though its a load of people watching you and judging you. Thats totally coloured by whatever is going on in my life outside of facebook though.
My friends really understand that because every time ive left facebook theyve rang me up all like 'WHY HAVE YOU LEFT FACEBOOK WHATS WRONG!?!?' and ive tried to just be all 'ah i just dont like it any more' but they have none of it because they know i relly love it and actually something must have happened to upset me.

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Cathaka15 · 05/10/2016 02:01

I left right after the brexit vote. Some of my friends were acting so disgusting because of the way I voted. I really felt bullied and sick that grown adults could act this way. I announced that I was leaving due to some people's attitudes. But re joined a few weeks back. I don't go on there as much.

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TwigletsMakeMeViolent · 05/10/2016 02:18

I hated the narcissism. I'm slightly misanthropic anyway, so tend to feel better about my fellow human away from the sheer self indulgence of all those brain dumps.

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dovesong · 05/10/2016 03:21

I keep leaving and then going back. I never get involved and rarely post anything but I like to know how people are getting on - you know, old housemates who were lovely but who I've lost touch with, old school pals etc, the sort of people who I don't specifically contact but have warm feelings about. It's nice to know they're happy. I just delete people I don't want to see, eg my old boss who's too UKIP-y for my liking.

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ChequeOff · 05/10/2016 03:28

What about you OP? Are you a facebooker or not?

Me, I've never got into it. I have an account but it's pretty dormant as everyone I want in my life is in my life. Don't need another means if communication.

But fair dos for anyone else

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CoolToned · 05/10/2016 03:32

I used to be a heavy facebook user a decade ago (when it was just starting) but have significantly cut down. Now I just share articles and funny memes.

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Popularcontrarian · 05/10/2016 03:52

I came off it after a family bereavement.

Everything seemed so fake and trivial that I had to ditch it. I also have a close family member who behaves quite poisonously at times and fb has been used as a vehicle for their malice.

Don't miss it at all now. In fact I rarely think about it. None of my close friends use it and I've always contacted them through other means.

I think usage is in decline in general, younger people don't seem to be using it much.

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NantucketNightbird · 05/10/2016 06:12

I left and don't miss it at all. Wishing your child a happy 2nd birthday wtaf? Homemade casserole smells lush- again wtaf Confused. Plus constant selfies which are edited so much I actually genuinely asked 'who's that'. No thanks Wink

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MsJamieFraser · 05/10/2016 06:16

I only post pics of the kids or what we have been up to, as my family live in a different county to myself, other than that it doesn't get used much.

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Waffles80 · 05/10/2016 06:43

I just use it for selling pages - so many great secondhand children's toys / coats. Have successfully sold lots of my own children's things too.

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2ndbabymama · 05/10/2016 06:48

I came off probably close to two years ago and it's been the best thing. I can still check for local events or businesses when I need to but like someone said above, non the posts that used to bug me. It's true, if you like it great, if not don't use it and don't care that you don't! That way we're all happy.Grin

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LellyMcKelly · 05/10/2016 06:49

I like it, but I'm ruthless at unfollowing people I don't want to hear from - the bitchy comments, the relentless baby photos etc. Facebook is just the medium by which you send and receive information. You decide who you want to hear from and interact with. It is what you make it.

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GaryGilmoresEyes · 05/10/2016 06:50

Left three years ago and have never regretted it. The people who were my true friends stay in touch, those who obviously weren't, don't. At least I don't have to see constant duck face selfies . Grin

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SabineUndine · 05/10/2016 06:54

I closed my first account cos I made the mistake of letting loads of colleagues friend me.

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redexpat · 05/10/2016 07:02

Most of the complaints about fb are not actually a comment on fb, but rather a reflection of who your FB friends are. I have never seen a duckface selfie. I have never seen a passive aggressive status, nor people aaking whats up hun? I see interesting articles and recently lots of pictures of people doing the crystal maze.

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Wellhellothere1 · 05/10/2016 07:03

I left around 2 years ago as I was going through a hard time with guilt at having an only child. The constant photos of my fb friends' family days out with siblings cuddling each other made me feel sick with guilt Sad
However I'm over this now and an entirely happy with my family life and I think coming off fb helped me feel better. I am aware people only post positive photos and these are snapshots of days out and don't show any bickering our tantrums but still...
I created another fb account with a slightly different name and use this for the school and gym and local pages etc so I feel I don't miss out too much. I have no friends on this page. If I'm being honest I think I miss out a bit but I'm far happier off it and don't miss all the crappy posts one bit.

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Alabastard · 05/10/2016 07:04

I rarely post but I browse a few times a day. My only friends on there are family spread across the globe so it's a nice way to see what they're up to.

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Perfectlypurple · 05/10/2016 07:09

I left a couple of years ago. I rarely posted. I tried culling people who weren't friends but they kept trying to re add me. I got fed up of the dramatic status updates and the cryptic ones with further updates - can't say in here, will pm you Hun type comments.

I realised that it didn't actually bring anything to my life and I was just on it to be nosy about what others were doing then I realised I didn't particularly care what people had for tea or if they were eating a packet of maltesers etc so I deactivated. I don't regret it and I don't miss it.

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Catsize · 05/10/2016 07:34

I came off five years ago after a friend betrayed me and used my profile maliciously with someone who started to send me abusive emails. A bit dramatic, but came off straightaway, no 'goodbyes' or anything.
I haven't really missed it, have gained numerous hours but now faff on MN instead but I have missed out socially as things are often organised through Fb.
I am occasionally tempted to go back on but find all the self-help messages and random videos that are posted now very irritating.

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Fortitudine · 05/10/2016 07:36

I haven't left but I post a lot less than I used to. I think Facebook as a "thing" has definitely peaked. I was also stalked online by an ex and his insane girlfriend, which made me much more aware of my online presence, and what I shared.

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CoolToned · 05/10/2016 07:39

I stopped sharing anything about myself too. I actually migrated to another country almost three years ago and noone in FB know about it (except family and really close friends).

I noticed friends talking about other people's FB posts (pictures, etc) and I just thought this same thing could be done to me by other people. So I just stopped.

Now I only post memes and share random articles or videos (not mine - mostly shows).

I also stopped reading my timeline and unfollowed a lot of people. I only check it now to check up on my mother, and my niece and nephews who are back home.

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Didiusfalco · 05/10/2016 07:42

I left a few years ago, when I was having a hard time and feeling let down by some friends. Used to look at it a lot but haven't missed it at all. Ive heard it said a few times on here that comparison is the thief of joy, and it's so much easier to be happy with what you have without a lot of carefully curated comparisons in front of you.

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