To see some examples of Passive Aggressive tactic BINGO

(124 Posts)
GeekLove Tue 04-Oct-16 13:05:23

I have seen a fair few in my time so here are some of mine

1. Dramatic Washing Up. To be done messily and splashily as possible preferably with deep breathing and sighing.

2. The Last Biscuit. "No OF COURSE you can have it. It's just a biscuit. I'm fine, fine, fine really I am."

3. The Passive Aggressive Bath. Might sound weird but highly effective if the only toilet in the house is in the bathroom. Most effective if you have guest that have just arrived or you are doing it near most people's bed time. Have a long bath and observe the squirming dance/irritation at not being able to do bedtime ablutions.
More effective still if doors are locked and guests have no keys and the kitchen sink isn't an option.
On no account warn your guests about wanting to have a bath.

4. Dramatic Housework in general - Particularly if they have it in mind it should be YOUR job. Bonus points if they think that having a penis (or ID'ing as male) absolves you from housework EVER.

VioletBam Tue 04-Oct-16 13:36:30

Aggressive hoovering. You get to clean up AND spoil the environment for others!

TallulahTheTiger Tue 04-Oct-16 13:39:13

Don't forget the 'listing' of things that you have done/will be doing- so everyone knows how wonderful and hardworking you are!

TheNaze73 Tue 04-Oct-16 14:01:00

Laughing my head off at this thread. Add to the list the overloud clunking of emptying the dishwashwer

GeekLove Tue 04-Oct-16 14:02:57

Don't forget heavy breathing and sighing like you are coming down with a cold. When asked if you are OK say "Fine!"

Under no circumstance should you be the person who ever asks if others are OK since you are the only person on the planet with FEELINGS.

GeekLove Tue 04-Oct-16 14:04:07

The Naze I had a BF's dad who'd do that stunt but he seldom checked to see if there was an audience.

SilverDragonfly1 Tue 04-Oct-16 14:04:50

Re huffing, you can always say 'I'm fine, I'm just TIRED.'

gandalf456 Tue 04-Oct-16 14:10:18

I like the noisy tidying up that involves tidying right in front of the telly. Bonus points if you hoover the lounge too

Mishegoss Tue 04-Oct-16 14:10:42

Slamming the cupboard doors while you're putting the plates away. When asked what's wrong you're "FINE!" and apparently didn't slam them.

Jubaloo442 Tue 04-Oct-16 14:14:00

My dad does all of these, but most of them on Christmas morning to piss my mum off.
It's like our very own family Christmas tradition.
To retaliate my mum makes some passive aggressive mince pies for my dad's side of the family who she doesn't particularly like.

smEGGontoast Tue 04-Oct-16 14:21:29

Don't forget The Flounce. Usually at a ridiculously early time accompanied by, "I'm going to bed!", an overloud amount of stair stomping then moving various things around the bedroom for dramatic effect.

Lottapianos Tue 04-Oct-16 14:26:53

grin and sad at this thread at this time. Its a grim experience living with someone who behaves like this ( thankfully no longer)

I remember a poster saying that when staying at their ILs house, they would be expected to be up and about at stupid o'clock in the morning. If they decided to have a lie in, a massive passive aggressive 'accident' would be staged outside their room, loads of objects being 'accidentally' dropped or whatever. It made me laugh a lot - people who do stuff like this are sad and strange specimens

KatsutheClockworkOctopus Tue 04-Oct-16 14:45:55

Ha-I have a relative who does the PA bath! Can I add Cleaning Properly eg putting all the chairs up and hand scrubbing the tiles for the first time ever whilst huffing and rubbing back?

GeekLove Tue 04-Oct-16 14:51:53

I can't forget the Flounce! I had an ex-boyfriend who use to do that all the time too. Note the ex.
I see I'm not alone at being on the receiving end of a PA bath! Particular bonus points if they are at weird times of day like 3pm or 2am and they aren't shiftworkers.

NotLostJustSomewhereSafe Tue 04-Oct-16 14:56:30

Passive aggressive mince pies grin
Brilliant!!

JellyBelli Tue 04-Oct-16 14:59:29

Dont forget the passive aggressive Bin Liner Flap.

Potplant Tue 04-Oct-16 15:12:05

I miss the PA housework!
When ex was pissed off with me he used to furiously clean the kitchen. It was the only time he ever cleaned up.
When he's pissed off now he just goes off the grid for a few days and I have to clean my own oven.

KatieScarlett Tue 04-Oct-16 15:17:04

Ah, you've met DH!
He does all of the above, for about 2 seconds until he is firmly told to desist (OK, I yell). He's then fine.
Totally learned behaviour, he acknowledges it himself. Thanks for that MIL.

ZazieCats Tue 04-Oct-16 15:17:18

Passive aggressive gift giving. Either giving someone something they don't like (knowingly) or giving them the same thing again and again, when there is no way they would need a new one again a year later.

Lottapianos Tue 04-Oct-16 15:24:31

A friend of a friend had a new man on the scene a few years ago, and they had been seeing each other for a few months. He came round to hers on Christmas Eve for gift exchanges - friend of friend's adult son was there too, as was mutual friend who told me the story. New man gave mutual friend a 2-pack of Dove soap and gave adult son a can of deodorant. Not fancy deodorant, just plain old deodorant shock Neither of them have any hygiene issues in the slightest. I think he was just being a condescending wanker. He got binned a few months later thank goodness, for more wanker behaviour

ollieplimsoles Tue 04-Oct-16 15:24:53

Aggressive hoovering. You get to clean up AND spoil the environment for others

Laughing my head off! Amazing thread grin

Dusting, wiping surfaces, tidying up whilst holding baby, it makes the tasks look more stressful and difficult than they actually are, lots of huffing and puffing ensue.

CruCru Tue 04-Oct-16 15:42:14

I'm not sure whether this counts but putting on a croaky, whiny voice when the relevant person has hurt their foot / broken their arm / done something that, while possibly painful, should not affect their ability to speak?

I used to go out with someone who got into a huff when my mother's table collapsed. When I said "Are you really sulking because my mother's table has collapsed?!?!", he said that "It was all hectic". But that was because he was an arsehole.

Tiredandtested Tue 04-Oct-16 15:46:27

We have passive aggressive bin taking out here.
Despite reminders it's regularly done very early morning, possibly in the dark and involves a lot of huffing and puffing.
I am sometimes reminded 'I took the bin out for you'.

KondosSecretJunkRoom Tue 04-Oct-16 15:49:30

Running the downstairs tap to screw up the water temperature of the shower of a person taking too long.

EverySongbirdSays Tue 04-Oct-16 15:49:38

Passive Aggressive Transport Arrangements :

There's a train at 21.45 and then the next one isn't til 22.20 which will get us home VERY LATE but we can get whichever it's absolutely fine with me

Ok we'll get the 22.20 then.

Sulky silence.

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