I have a very difficult relationship with my mum for various reasons I won't bore you with, but have posted plenty before about it. Trying to take baby steps to get through and forge a relationship of sorts!
Anyway until yesterday she lived near me for around 2 months after living abroad for a decade and has now decided to go back abroad very suddenly. She managed to clear the flat out that she was living in, but asked if I could dispose of some of the bulkier items once she'd gone, which I agreed to. She told me that she left a few bits for me in a folder on the kitchen worktop, mainly recipes she found as I enjoy cooking and some books.
Went round today to sort furniture, and picked up the folder on my way out. Just taken a look in it. Some recipes as promised, a couple of novels...and two books about the Dukan Diet and the Atkins Diet
I'm not overweight. I'm 5'7" and usually weigh about 9.5stone, around a size 10. In heavier at the moment because I'm six months pregnant. I have changed shape, I'm bigger than my last pregnancy and I have noticed. I've probably put about a stone or a stone and a half on, I haven't weighed myself so it's just a guess looking at myself, but I do feel self conscious because I look like an egg with legs
AIBU to be upset at this hint? And it will be a hint, my mum doesn't do these things by accident. One reason our relationship is difficult is her put downs, particularly about my appearance. On my wedding day she told me she didn't like my hair, I looked like I was going to work apparently. If she ever buys me clothes she'll buy me a size 14, despite knowing I'm a 10 (before I get flamed size 14 is not big in the least but it's not my size, she's making a point that she thinks my clothes are too tight when they're not). She's never likes my hair, it's very long and blonde and I always look like a "council house slapper" when my roots come through apparently,why can't I have a nice dark bob?
She never asks about my pregnancy, or how my scans have gone (despite being high risk and a few concerns with the baby which has resulted in extra scans), when I said to her a few weeks ago "I had a scan on Monday" she said "really what for?" she forgot I was pregnant. Yet before she left her flat I was round helping her sort stuff and she said to my 3yo DD "do you know why your mummy is fat at the moment?" i did bollock her for the one, not because of me but because I don't want 'fat' spoken about in that manner in front of my DD.
Anyway I chucked the books in the wheelie bins outside because even if I did want to Diet (and I don't especially when pregnant) I wouldn't do fad ones, but more because I feel it was a huge dig. But maybe I'm so used to put downs in taking it the wrong way completely and there may just have been nice recipes in there?
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AIBU?
To be a bit upset with what my mum left me or and over reacting?
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PinkyOfPie · 04/10/2016 00:48
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