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Homework for a 3 year old?

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CrohnicallyAspie Mon 03-Oct-16 21:15:04

DD goes to a day care nursery. She turns 4 soon, so this is her last year before she starts school. When I picked her up today they gave me a phonics sheet and asked me to do it at home with her. It's not difficult, it's circling letters and colouring a picture. But seriously, set homework for a 3 year old? AIBU to think it's completely unnecessary and not do it? I don't think she'll suffer academically!

RiverTam Mon 03-Oct-16 21:16:31

No no no no no.

Just - no.

Turn it over and give it to her as colouring paper.

DD's nursery did do some phonics with them but they didn't get homework!

ThatStewie Mon 03-Oct-16 21:19:13

The evidence doesn't even support homework for primary school. Never mind a 3 year old! I'd say no. If you're feeling bolshy, maybe askwhat the evidence is for them giving homework.

CrohnicallyAspie Mon 03-Oct-16 21:19:26

Yeah, I don't mind them doing a bit of phonics with her at nursery, but today we did the weekly shop (DD helped get things off the shelf etc), a bit of gardening then tea, bath, story, bed. Surely that sort of thing has more value than an exercise in letter recognition!

FleurThomas Mon 03-Oct-16 21:19:32

My neice got homework at 3. This ensured she did a bit everyday to get her into an easy routine she could sustain (30mins a day), otherwise the schools around here send a huge 'summer pack' to get kids to cram a minimum level at 4. (They get put into 'remedial' classes otherwise).

CrohnicallyAspie Mon 03-Oct-16 21:20:44

When they gave it to me, I was a bit surprised by it and just sort of ummed and went 'yeah'. So do I go and tell them I'm not doing it because I think it's silly? Or just not hand it in and hope they don't ask me directly...

Justwanttoweeinpeace Mon 03-Oct-16 21:21:09

This is nonsense. At this age homework shouldn't be any more complicated than bringing something in for show and tell. angry

BackforGood Mon 03-Oct-16 21:21:15

YANBU. Totally ridiculous and inappropriate. I would have just told them not to be ridiculous and to go back and take another look at the EYFS

Spurtle Mon 03-Oct-16 21:21:46

Fleur, that's awful! Are you being serious? Where do you live?

CrohnicallyAspie Mon 03-Oct-16 21:21:49

I doubt she would be in a 'remedial' class anyway... I was an early reader (probably due to my AS) and DD looks to be following in my footsteps!

FleurThomas Mon 03-Oct-16 21:29:31

Midlands. Lots of well off Indian/Asian kids in the schools here & they score crazily off the charts from 4, so everybody has to get to a minimum level or be placed into 'lower level' classes until they catch up.

FleurThomas Mon 03-Oct-16 21:31:35

I'm Asian too btw and felt like a failure because some of these kids are actually reading proper books at 4, but I'd just about managed to get my neice to use phonics.

Aeroflotgirl Mon 03-Oct-16 21:34:26

Absolutely ludricous, all little ones shoukd worry about us what's for dinner. Do a but but don't push her if she doesent want to. All this is raking the fun out of learning.

Tinuviel Mon 03-Oct-16 21:44:24

I politely informed the nursery DD went to that she wouldn't be doing homework - they looked horrified but there's not a lot they can do about it!

Kids really don't need to be doing homework at 3 to get them used to it. I don't agree with homework at primary school apart from reading/learning tables. Homework should be for secondary - when they can actually just get on with it themselves!

MrsMulder Mon 03-Oct-16 21:52:12

I would let her just draw on the paper and give it back. Ridiculous to give a 3 year old homework, they should be playing

paxillin Mon 03-Oct-16 21:57:09

What? Unless she is super keen I'd let her do what she wants with it, including ripping it up, doodling all over it or wrapping her shoe in it.

FreshHorizons Mon 03-Oct-16 22:01:35

I agree with paxillin. I can't see why a 3yr old would want to do that or what they would get out of it.

edwinbear Mon 03-Oct-16 22:01:38

DD started school last year in a 3+ nursery class of the school she is now in reception at. She had homework every weekend, a phonics sheet, or a 'maths challenge' such as counting how many teddies she had or the number of spoons vs knives vs forks we had. She enjoyed it and there were no issues at all if it wasn't done for whatever reason. She also started bringing reading books home in the last term which she also enjoyed.

minipie Mon 03-Oct-16 22:18:25

Are you sure it's compulsory?

DD's nursery sends home these kinds of tasks (mostly phonics or number based sheets, sometimes "play I spy with your child" "collect conkers and count them" or similar). However they are to be done if you want to, not compulsory at all.

We never do them, no time!

Bedsheets4knickers Mon 03-Oct-16 22:56:01

It's def not compulsory .. she might surprise you and enjoy it , she might like it one week not want to do it another .. I did the 1st 50 words with my son before he started school . No pressure but slowly parrot fashioned . Must say his 1st year in reception his reading was amazing ..
again it's entirely a personal choice . If you don't fancy it then don't do it . My youngest has currently no interest so we don't don't it .

cuntinghomicidalcardigan Tue 04-Oct-16 07:30:45

My dd has enjoyed doing phonics workbooks since about 2.5, we make it fun and have a giggle making up sill words with the sounds etc. I have never enforced a homework time but most days she gets her books out. She's been in reception 4 weeks and can read famous five and write short sentences by herself.

If it is compulsory then I don't agree with that. However, might they just be giving you ideas of activities to do with her? She might really enjoy it smile

That1950sMum Tue 04-Oct-16 07:31:59

Bonkers. Say no!

HellsBellsnBucketsofBlood Tue 04-Oct-16 08:42:51

Oh dear god no. Your DD does not need to be doing homework at 3 (or 4 or 5 or 6 for that matter). Unless the homework is designed to get the less able parents doing what you probably do anyway (bake cupcakes, go blackberry picking, collect and paint conkers).

CrohnicallyAspie Tue 04-Oct-16 13:38:41

I didn't do the homework and didn't mention it either. It looked like none of the other parents even took the sheet home...

She has handwriting books at home (she loves the wipe clean ones!), and I encourage her to write in things like birthday cards anyway, but she showed no interest in doing the homework other than telling me what all the sounds were on the way home (she also read the adults' instructions to 'find the letter a'!)

Tanith Tue 04-Oct-16 14:08:30

Interesting article from Sue Palmer here

Unfortunately, she and others have been saying this for years and the Authorities still aren't listening sad

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