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Aibu to be annoyed at people's lack of basic manners?

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Starryeyed16 Mon 03-Oct-16 10:33:06

So I'm doing the school run today, with my 8yr 3yr and 6month who is now in a pushchair. We have a small pathway between a school and housing estate to get further up to DS school.

We were walking along and there's a group of women with two large dogs and some children completely blocking the pathway talking there is no way to get past them, they see me walking but don't move and after several attempts of me politely saying excuse me they barely give me enough room to get back single filed. I looked at them and said they shouldn't be stood like that and got a dirty look. Surely it's common sense if you see someone coming the opposite direction you move in to let them pass. When did people become so rude?

WorraLiberty Mon 03-Oct-16 10:37:04

Meh! Some people have always been rude/unthinking.

There are still far more polite people in the world than rude ones.

ShotsFired Mon 03-Oct-16 10:39:22

TBH, it's usually parents with buggies who I find to be the worst offenders. Especially in supermarkets where they seem to congregate for a mas chat at random points.

Also not sure what the big deal is about having to go single file on a "small pathway"?

But as Worra says, thankfully there are still more good than bad out there smile

Starryeyed16 Mon 03-Oct-16 10:40:33

I think my annoyance was their refusal to move and me asking multiple times could I get pass then given a dirty look for the privledge.

Starryeyed16 Mon 03-Oct-16 10:41:43

They didn't move I had to ask and barely had give enough space to get past myself that's my point they took up the entire footpath.

MrsderPunkt Mon 03-Oct-16 11:13:15

When did they become so rude? Probably when they started to dictate where people should and should not stand. You DO have a lack of basic manners and YABU.

PoppyBirdOnAWire Mon 03-Oct-16 11:30:18

Blocking a path like that is rude and ill mannered. The OP should not have had to excuse herself. They should have automatically moved to one side.

So yes, it was rude. Italian students congregate in very large groups on busy pavements and jabber noisily to boot. I hate it. It smacks of attitude but then many Italians have no manners.

Walking two abreast on the pavement when about to pass another two people who are approaching and who are also walking side by side, is also ill-mannered. It is good manners for both lots to give way and single-file it.

DoinItFine Mon 03-Oct-16 11:38:19

I'm really enjoying MN's new definition of "dictate".

Don't want to stand indefinitely waiting for people blocking the path?

You are dictating where they can stand.

Don't want to be woken up by texts in the middle of the night?

You are dictating when people can send text messages.


It's great.

Basically, people should be allowed to do whatever they want, whenever they want and expecting them to consider the impact on other people is totally unfair.


You have no right to walk up the road. Stop being so entitled. wink

AndShesGone Mon 03-Oct-16 11:42:59

Yeah OP, you should have gone in the gutter hmm

Know your place woman

DetailedConfusion Mon 03-Oct-16 11:44:48

me asking multiple times could I get pass

Surely it was a case that they didn't hear you?

Basic social niceties, such as moving - even if only a bit - when you hear 'excuse me' are automatically programmed into even the rudest people IME. You move naturally, without thinking and without even seeing the 'exucuse me-er'.

I can't imagine a group of women acknowledging your 'excuse me' and actually 'refusing' to move. So I think it's probably likely you're over exaggerating somewhat and they weren't as rude as you say.

Starryeyed16 Mon 03-Oct-16 11:53:28

They clearly heard me I was obviously not a majority.

I had to giggle and the dictating where people stand comment from MrsderPunkt I guess I should of just stood there until one of decided to move? Thanks for the others who see sense.

Starryeyed16 Mon 03-Oct-16 11:56:13

Priority even

PubesintheChips Mon 03-Oct-16 11:57:10

I've come to the conclusion that most people are, basically, rude cunts.

WorraLiberty Mon 03-Oct-16 11:59:41

I'm really enjoying MN's new definition of "dictate".

I thought that was just one poster's definition?

And yes, it's certainly a strange one.

Mozfan1 Mon 03-Oct-16 11:59:46

It smacks of attitude but then many Italians have no manners.

What the FUCK??

WaitrosePigeon Mon 03-Oct-16 12:01:18

I've come to the conclusion that most people are, basically, rude cunts.


imnotreally Mon 03-Oct-16 12:04:19

Sits back with the popcorn and waits for someone to complain about the stereotyping of Italians.

Ginslinger Mon 03-Oct-16 12:07:01

Yeah OP you shouldn't have left the house - you entitled person wanting to walk on a pavement. Whatever next? You'll be dictating that people have to queue in supermarkets grin

DoinItFine Mon 03-Oct-16 12:08:32

I thought that was just one poster's definition?

No, I've seen it on a few threads by multiple posters recently.

allwornout0 Mon 03-Oct-16 12:11:59

I'm also finding that parents with buggies the worst.
If there are two together with their buggies chatting and someone is coming towards them, 9/10 they will not go single file for the 5 sec that it will take the person to get passed, instead the person is made to walk in the road or mud.

ItShouldHaveBenJess Mon 03-Oct-16 12:13:24

PubesintheChips. I'm more interested in your username grin. Now that really is bad manners....

LadyCinderelephant Mon 03-Oct-16 12:14:00

I'm going to take a guess they were the Jeremy kyle types? Those seem to have their manners removed at birth.

Lweji Mon 03-Oct-16 12:14:01

I'm curious, OP. Did you pass behind their backs or through the middle of the group?

MorrisZapp Mon 03-Oct-16 12:14:52

Lol re Italians. I've been to Italy and I live in a city which attracts vast numbers of Italian students in the summer.

I'd say their approach to the whole please and thank you thing is largely different to our own. They often seem oblivious to other people's existence and expect others to perhaps float over their heads rather than move to make way for them.

I know some very courteous Italian people too but from my perspective, lack of what we call manners is something of a national trait.

MrsderPunkt Mon 03-Oct-16 12:16:58

You told them that 'you shouldn't be stood like that' which is rude, and you were dictating (whether or not you like the word is immaterial). Ask people to move if they're in the way, but don't go around telling them where/how they can stand.

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