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TweedleDumber Mon 03-Oct-16 07:55:26

Your DP is a SAHP.

It's your day off work and you have a test drive booked. With no intention of buying, it's just to get a feel of the vehicle.

When you got up you found DP had been up all night with sick 3yo (not anything major, just a bad cough/cold and the whingy/clingyness of a sick 3yo). DP has only had 3 hours broken sleep.

Test drive is booked for 9:30am. Would you still go or would you cancel and let DP sleep while you look after your sick child?.

ThatStewie Mon 03-Oct-16 07:56:19

I'd cancel.

Readyfortwo Mon 03-Oct-16 07:56:29

Def cancel/move to later in the day.

TiredBefuddledRose Mon 03-Oct-16 07:56:54

Stay home and look after my sick child and give my partner a rest, no question.

SleepFreeZone Mon 03-Oct-16 07:57:02


ppandj Mon 03-Oct-16 07:57:17

Definitely cancel.

SolomanDaisy Mon 03-Oct-16 07:57:35

Cancel, obviously. And be very apologetic for not noticing DC was ill during the night and helping out.

longdiling Mon 03-Oct-16 07:57:58

It wouldn't bother me if they went as long as they came back and I got to go straight back to bed and sleep it off. A test drive doesn't take that long does it? I could soldier on for a couple of hours if a rest was in sight.

longdiling Mon 03-Oct-16 07:58:49

Yes, that's a good point Solomon, where was the dp during the night?

JakeBallardswife Mon 03-Oct-16 08:03:40

I'd go to the test drive then come home with a lovely lunch snacks etc and take over for the rest of the day and evening x

TweedleDumber Mon 03-Oct-16 08:03:42

DP was in bed fast asleep.

SAHP went into lounge on sofa with sick 3yo as DC couldn't lay down without coughing/spluttering. And eventually fell asleep on SAHP.

Mysieveisbroken Mon 03-Oct-16 08:08:14

Dp is the husband I guess and still going on the test drive?

Mysieveisbroken Mon 03-Oct-16 08:09:11

I think it should be something that is discussed and not assumed either way.

MrsMushrooms Mon 03-Oct-16 08:11:28

I think this would vary between different couples. Obviously you want us to say cancel, but if this had happened to me I'd want DP to keep his appointment for the test drive but then come home and let me sleep / rest while he looked after DC.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks Mon 03-Oct-16 08:13:38

I'd still go on the test drive. It's not going to take all day and SAHP would have to cope if WOHP had to go to work, or if the time was booked off for a hospital appointment (for example). WOHP can take over when they get back.

DartmoorDoughnut Mon 03-Oct-16 08:14:44

The test drive is only going to be what a couple of hours? So go do that then swop over for the afternoon

Sugarpiehoneyeye Mon 03-Oct-16 08:15:23

Stay at home, and reschedule.

WinterLeaf Mon 03-Oct-16 08:16:10

I wouldn't cancel (or expect DH to cancel if roles were reversed). Presumably the test drive will only be an hour or 2 then I can come back and take over while he has a nap?

3 hours broken sleep is quite normal for me, I can still function.

TweedleDumber Mon 03-Oct-16 08:20:00

Yes I'm the SAHP. Mum.

The thing that is getting to me is that he has NO intention of buying this vehicle or at the very least 4/5 years.

I can function on little sleep, just not very well.

TweedleDumber Mon 03-Oct-16 08:21:27

Oh and I think another reason he's still keeping it is because he can't 'deal' with DD when she's poorly.

longdiling Mon 03-Oct-16 08:21:38

3 hours of broken sleep is horrific for me (and most people I imagine) but I'd be able to keep going with the promise of a break on the near horizon.

DeathStare Mon 03-Oct-16 08:22:05

Well I would cancel.

But then DP has already they are a selfish dick by booking a test drive (and thus taking the sales person's time away from someone who could make a purchase) for a car they have no intention of buying. So I would expect that DP to continue being a selfish dick and go anyway.

And if the SAHP was ok with DP being a selfish dick to the salesperson then they can't really complain when DP is also a selfish dick to them.

Mysieveisbroken Mon 03-Oct-16 08:22:38

Then your problem isn't the test drive your problem is your H and his attitude.

longdiling Mon 03-Oct-16 08:23:16

So is he unlikely to take over asap then? Because that's the problem, not the test drive. If this is just him escaping and he will continue to find excuses all day then I'm not surprised it's an issue.

Swissgemma Mon 03-Oct-16 08:24:07

I'd welcome the offer to cancel and the acknowledgement it was a rubbish night... But I'd send dh off for his test drive but expect him to take over when he gets back!

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