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AIBU?

To be fuming with DH?

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bibbetybobbetybooo · 02/10/2016 17:24

I'm so angry - resisting the urge to go mental at him.

Basically - baby didn't really sleep at all last night and I've been up since 6.30am with all the children.

DH slept in until after 1pm when I had to go and actually wake him up.

This morning I've looked after the children, fed them, done all the washing/sorting/tidying. Batch-cooked a shitload of stuff and taken them to various different activities. One has GCSE coursework and was getting massively stressed out. So that was fun.

So, when I suggested that I felt tired I didn't expect a load of abuse. A load of 'you've done nothing, you're lazy, you don't even work' type of abuse.

I had a nap for 2 hrs (because I was so exhausted) and left him to it. Apparently that's me being massively selfish and I need to get a grip.

I'm not happy.

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Squirmy65ghyg · 02/10/2016 17:26

He sounds horrible. Awful way to speak to someone. Are you wanting to leave?

BreatheDeep · 02/10/2016 17:31

No, YANBU. Does he have a reason he slept so late? Shift work or something? If not he is completely unreasonable fir sleeping that late. And doubly unreasonable to complain you had a nap.

timeforheroes · 02/10/2016 17:33

Sod that. He's a fuckwit. I'd be wild with fury if my DH said that to me under those circumstances.
I can totally understand why you'd be unhappy, I'm assuming his attitude stinks full stop and this isn't a one off. Obviously we don't have a lot of info to go on but my LTB senses are tingling.

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 02/10/2016 17:35

Well he's quite the shit, isn't he?

Soubriquet · 02/10/2016 17:36

So why are you with him?

Naicehamshop · 02/10/2016 17:38

Does he do shift work op? Struggling to understand his attitude.

maras2 · 02/10/2016 17:40

What a nasty person.

Thattimeofyearagain · 02/10/2016 17:41

He's a prize arsehole. You'd be better doing it all yourself without this nasty bastard .

Arfarfanarf · 02/10/2016 17:54

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Topseyt · 02/10/2016 17:54

I would be fuming too. He sounds like an arse.

He is their parent too. Why does he need reminding of that simple fact.

My DH would sometimes need reminding that our three DDs were his children just as much as they were mine, but he certainly wasn't so downright nasty about it. If he had ever spoken to me like that I would have handed him his arse on a plate.

PeggyMitchell123 · 02/10/2016 17:57

What a dick

Is he always like that?

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 · 02/10/2016 17:58

Yes get a grip.
Of his throat.

Creampastry · 02/10/2016 18:04

I would have sent the kids to jump on him at 9am. Why the hell are you letting him sleep until 1pm?

bibbetybobbetybooo · 02/10/2016 19:12

He sleeps in because he apparently deserves a lie in at the weekend. He really doesn't get the fact that we have children so lie ins are a thing of the past.

Unfortunately he is like this a lot. I think he feels he does 'everything' because he works and often cooks the meal/helps with bedtime. But the house doesn't clean itself by magic, the clothes don't wash/iron themselves/the kids don't look after themselves etc etc

It's infuriating.

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bibbetybobbetybooo · 02/10/2016 19:13

There's no 'letting him' sleep in. He just won't bloody get up.

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bibbetybobbetybooo · 02/10/2016 19:13

There's no 'letting him' sleep in. He just won't bloody get up.

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HobnailsandTaffeta · 02/10/2016 19:17

He's a twat and you should leave him. That was he an have the kids on his access days and you will get a lie in at least.

PerpendicularVincent · 02/10/2016 19:22

He's a twat, but you're fully aware of that! Do you want to stay with him?

Crispyturtle · 02/10/2016 19:40

I only got as far as the bit about him sleeping in til 1pm. At that point it was clear YANBU. The only way YABU would be if you slept in til 1pm yesterday. I'm pretty confident that didn't happen.

He sounds like a dick.

Penfold007 · 02/10/2016 20:01

And your with him because?

HereIAm20 · 02/10/2016 20:13

Why didn't you wake him up before 1 pm then?

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 02/10/2016 20:13

Well he sounds like a prince!

Are the older children not his? Just trying to work out how he is so clueless about parenting if he has a 15 year old.

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bibbetybobbetybooo · 02/10/2016 20:16

They're all his. He just thinks it's not his job.
He got worse when the youngest came along. Not sure why.
I'm not sure why I'm with him - love, I suppose.

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Pumpkin2010 · 02/10/2016 20:18

Currently going through something similar with DH (I'm on mat leave after 3rd baby).

Made to feel like I couldn't possibly be as tired as him (even though I've not had ONE full nights sleep since having DS2 10 months ago). Why is it such a competition?! I think it's just they don't see value in what you're doing. Bringing up the kids & being at home with them the majority of the time is bloody hard work.

YANBU!!

AyeAmarok · 02/10/2016 20:20

You love someone who has this little respect for you?

Why do you value yourself so little?

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