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To wonder when people got so judgemental

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Inyournightdress · 01/10/2016 23:34

I just don't understand really why people are so bothered about other people's lifestyle choices when it literally doesn't impact them. I feel like mumsnet has got extra judgey recently or maybe I'm just really naive (probably the latter).

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/10/2016 23:42

TAAT?

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/10/2016 23:43

In any case people have always judged other people - to think otherwise is a little naive.

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WorraLiberty · 01/10/2016 23:46

I think it's always been judgey, especially AIBU.

But just lately, there does seem to be an influx of posts/threads from the particularly hard of thinking.

You know, people who just can't think outside of their own bubble/lifestyle.

Strange but true and a bit of an eye opener at times.

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Queenbean · 01/10/2016 23:49

I agree. The threads that annoy me most are the ones about bags / make up / designer stuff / anything in London / basically anything where the OP wants to spend more than £10 on something. All hideously judgemental with so much false modesty "I'd never spend that much money on myself, I carry around a wet paper bag to keep my things in and when it falls apart I just carry them in my hands. Bags are a frivolous waste of money". That sort of attitude.

How about: the person who has the money can spent it how they like and it's none of anyone else's business. (Unless it's for knives or fire or something)

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AmeliaJack · 01/10/2016 23:50

People have always been judgemental right back to beginning of time.

Mumsnet is particular has always been judgemental. It just reflects society.

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WorraLiberty · 01/10/2016 23:52

It's weird because I don't disagree that the judgements on here reflect society.

But on the other hand, Mumsnet really doesn't reflect real life for so many of us.

It's like a weird parallel universe that only exists inside our screens Grin

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tinkletinklelittlestar · 01/10/2016 23:55

We all judge to an extent but anonymous forums sure are a way to amplify it.

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Queenbean · 01/10/2016 23:55

I think if people do make these judgements in real life they keep them in their head

You wouldn't have many friends left if you voiced some of these opinions in real life. So it skews reality somewhat because people feel like this is the place they can say whatever they're thinking

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Inyournightdress · 02/10/2016 00:30

That is exactly what I mean queenbean. And it's not just 'oh I wouldn't do that myself'. It's the whole approach of 'how could anyone possibly do that it's disgusting' that really bugs me.

It's like people can't comprehend that what works for them doesn't work for everyone.

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Sparklesilverglitter · 02/10/2016 00:32

The reality of life is people judge you on everything you do

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Hobbes8 · 02/10/2016 00:36

I'm going to go against the grain here, but I feel more open minded as a result of posting on here. I think most people live within a fairly small range of experience. I've found it really helpful to hear from people, particularly those parents of children with different disabilities that I might be entirely unaware of. I think I'm less judgmental in real life as a result of being on here.

Except for those of you that change your towels less than once a week. You're the devil:

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