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AIBU?

To be insanely broody completely out of the blue

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shesell · 01/10/2016 21:56

I wonder if anyone else has had this or am I going nuts here?

Bit of background, we have one primary school age DC. We thought about having another one but didn't feel very strongly about it and both quite focussed on our careers. Then the "right time" seemed to pass and we both agreed that we wouldn't have any more. e

I was completely happy with this and had no desire whatsoever to have another child. There was just literally nothing there, I was completely happy with the DC I have and would have dreaded going back and staring over again.

About a month ago and completely out of the blue, I have been hit by the most INSANE level of broodiness. I almost cannot think about anything other than having another baby. Its like a biological force that I am unable to control. It has no logic to it as I have a busy career and it would change our lives quite a lot to have another baby now. DH is understandably a bit perplexed by it all and not overly keen to jump in to this kind of decision. I don't know what to make of it. Has anyone else experienced this kind of sudden onset intense broodiness and where did it lead to? Did it go away? Did you act on it? If someone had told me a few months ago that I would feel this way I would have laughed at them. Probably of relevance is the fact I am 39, which makes me wonder if my ovaries are sending me a loud and urgent message to bloody get on with it. .

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shesell · 01/10/2016 21:58

To further explain the insanity involved. I have been looking at pushchairs and thinking about what type I "might" get this time "if" we had another baby. I have been looking at MATERNITY clothes online. Its like I woke up one day in another woman's body as I had NO intention of ever ever doing this again. Wtf??

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Oly5 · 01/10/2016 21:58

I'm 40 and also incredibly broody. I think it's because it's last chance saloon! My DH luckily feels the same so we are going to try for number three!
We look at it this way - even though the early years are tough, we're highly unlikely to regret another child.
We have busy careers too but we'll make it work

Oly5 · 01/10/2016 21:59

Ps I also look at maternity clothes.. And can't stop looking st babies

shesell · 01/10/2016 22:01

Last chance saloon yes I think that's what's happening here

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shesell · 01/10/2016 22:01

I'm worried I'm going to end up going around with a cushion under my dress or something at this rate. Or snatching a baby out of a pushchair (not really).

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ollieplimsoles · 01/10/2016 22:03

This happened to me, woke up on my 24th birthday like I was in another woman's body! I had no desire for children at all before then

shesell · 01/10/2016 22:06

I didn't realise it could happen like this. The first time around it was a general sense that I had always wanted to have a child and the timing was right. This time it feels as if there is a child tapping on an invisible window asking to be born (I know how mad that sounds but its honestly what it feels like). ollie you started early to feel it at 24!

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JustMeAndHim · 01/10/2016 22:07

This also happened to me. I wasn't broody and then one day I couldn't think of anything else. I also looked at maternity clothes and prams.

4mo DS is now asleep on DH

shesell · 01/10/2016 22:08

JustMe congratulations how lovely If you get a bit tired of him I will take him off your hands.

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shesell · 01/10/2016 22:09

Gosh maybe looking at maternity clothes and prams means its serious. I didn't even do this the first time around

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SingingTunelessly · 01/10/2016 22:09

Yes that intense broodiness is a shocker at times. I had it early 40s as well. God so glad (now years laters) I didn't act on it. The thought of a teenager/uni years to get through again is enough to make me glad we didn't decide to try again tbh. If you're happy with your life as it is and the way it's heading why throw a hand grenade into it? Especially as your DH isn't really onboard. Think very carefully.

gratesnakes · 01/10/2016 22:11

YANBU.
It's the life force. You have to give onto it.
Good luck!

glamourousgranny42 · 01/10/2016 22:13

It happened to me. Quite suprising as I had started to look at babies and think 'thank god that's not me' . Then I cuddled a friends baby and became obsessed with having another. It passed after a few weeks and I'm soooooooooo glad I didn't act on it. Now 47 and my grandchild is more than enough.

UntilTheCowsComeHome · 01/10/2016 22:17

I'm the same.

36 and with 2 DC aged 15 and 11 I was very sure I'd finished with babies, but recently I've been getting uncontrollable broodiness.

We can't afford any more, DH definitely doesn't want any more and I'm too old to be starting with babies again but that ache is there.

JustMeAndHim · 01/10/2016 22:17

Thank you! I agree with gratesnakes, it's a force that I couldn't deny. Good luck

shesell · 01/10/2016 22:17

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I know I need to (try to) think about it rationally before doing anything about it. I don't think it would have a terrible effect on my life, it would be a big change but quite a good thing overall. I just thought I had zero desire for it and then- boom!

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shesell · 01/10/2016 22:19

Justme do you mind if I ask how old you were when the force hit you? And did you have DC already?

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splendidglenda · 01/10/2016 22:21

Yes each time my kids get to three or maybe four I also get massively broody!! After three boys and three miscarriages there'll be no more. Go for it OP

JustMeAndHim · 01/10/2016 22:27

Of course not, I was 30 when it hit with no DC

tinkletinklelittlestar · 02/10/2016 00:04

I just had a mental block of not wanting to be pregnant at 40 so, I'm now 40 with a six month old DC2. I don't regret it but boy am I tired!

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