I have a large number of children. Three of them have additional needs. The one who requires the most care is my 6 year old daughter who has cerebral palsy and is completely deaf. She is highly unlikely to be able to ever walk unaided.
We currently live in a 5 bedroom house and have to carry my daughter upstairs to bed.
We could, potentially, turn our dining room into a bedroom for her but I feel it is unfair that she will only have access to half of the house when she is older unless we carry her which is going to be difficult when she is older. Our stairs are split into three (5 steps to a mini landing, turn right, 3 steps up to a mini landing, turn right again and 6 steps up to a mini landing) so a stair lift is not possible and there is no room to install a lift.
It is my dream for us to live in a bungalow on just one level so no dormer bungalow.
Also, I posted recently about wanting my daughter to go to a specialist school which will take 1.5 hours to get to. We have been offered a place and I'm 90% sure we will accept the place we're just trying to work out the logistics of us getting her there.
I would love for us to move both closer to the school and to a bungalow.
It would mean uprooting all of the children from their current schools which the majority of them will cope fine with, once they got used to the idea BUT one of my children, my 8 year old son, has Aspergers and cannot cope with change. The idea of settling him in to a new school terrifies me.
Also, my 14 year old son will be doing his GCSE's next year so would like it if he could stay at his current school too. I have daughters in years 9 and 7 at the high school too.
My husband works at a Centre Parcs in a high paid job. If we moved closer to the specialist school, he would have to commute (currently only 7 miles) which I think he'd be ok with but it's very handy at the moment him being able to get home in 15-20 minutes.
What I would love, but don't know how feesable it would be, is to move closer to the specialist school, keep my high school children and son with aspergers in their current schools and my husband take them to school on his way to work. My husbands parents live 5 miles from the schools so could (and would) look after the children until my husband has finishes work.
Would it be completely and utterly unreasonable to uproot my entire family and make life somewhat diffiult for the next few years for the benefits and needs of just one of my children? My son with aspergers cannot cope with change and we will go to hell and back with him if we move until he settles. I am completely torn between two of my children.
I know we don't neccesarily have to move house for another few years with my daughter only being 6 but I want to get her into this specialist school. Is it wrong to make 4 of my children do an hours journey to school instead of just 1 of my children?
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MadamePeacock · 01/10/2016 18:17
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