I am in a new job (two months) it's not going well. I had a six month break this year as I was working full time and got too stressed so left my job and was supposed to get a new one but instead worked out a way to survive for a few months so I could go back and start anew.
I explained in my interview I need to take my dc to new nursery which is down the same road as this office so it would be very convenient for me. I said I'd had enough of the long hours of the city and was willing to take a big pay cut to work shorter hours in a local place. Anyway two months down, not only am I working long long hours and having too much work put upon me despite me saying I can't cope with the work levels not to mention (I have been working every night and weekend at home trying to catch up) I get told off everyday (not too seriously but makes me feel shit) for standards sliding due to my workload.
On top of this, one of my bosses constantly brushes past me if I'm photocopying which is in a narrow area and accidentally rubs against me trying to fit between the gap that is too small for one person yet he always does it even though there is another route the other side of the copier just as simple to get through. The other day when I needed to get past him in a different small gap I said excuse me and he just leant forward in the gap which is only a metre long, he could have just taken one step and been out my way, in this route it was my only way of getting out of where I was. Another occasion he put his hands on my hips when I was at the copier pretending he couldn't get his balance when squeezing (unnecessarily) past me.
But the most awful bit for me is I was abused when I was younger and absolutely hate anyone touching me unless it's with my permission. Even my best friend can't give me a hug some days as I find it difficult. My boss has also grabbed my chin to turn my head to look at someone else and has rubbed his hands over my face when saying oh hunnypots what are we going to do with you when I've made a mistake. It makes me feel sick.
I know people are going to say leave etc but my last job was also new but I left after a few months due to me becoming too stressed and I don't want another blip on my cv after having 6 months off as well so am trying to stick it out. I also need the money. I have an ok cv in my career otherwise but I know this might further push my pay down if I try to rebuild everything now and I don't think I can afford to be on less.
I've had this exact same thing with a boss before who always made comments and brushed past me so he could lean into me etc but when I asked him to stop he got really funny with me and promotions etc stopped after that. He ended up leaving thank goodness. This current boss is the owner of the company so I am feeling really stuffed. I've asked him not to grab my face but he did it again. There is no way this is 'friendly office laughs' face grabbing. This is a hard grip around my chin and turning my head involuntarily. Nobody talks in my office it's silent all day so I have no one to talk to and if I say anything at all they just shrug their shoulders. He doesn't do it to anyone else. I now try to avoid him but it's a small office, I feel so uncomfortable that I try to make sure I'm not alone with him but that's not always possible as I end up staying late in the office and he's always there. Sorry for long post but tbh I just had to get it off my chest as well. Whenever I talk to RL people they just say oh everyone always fancies you so it's going to happen here or somewhere else. Is it?! I have had it in two previous jobs but I just felt that as I get older these things would stop as before I put it down to being young and these guys taking advantage of their seniority. In this job I'm more senior myself and have a child.
aibu to not want this to happen!
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
to want my boss not to brush past me and 'accidentally' touch me on the way past
22 replies
hunnypots · 01/10/2016 08:10
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.