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AIBU have you ever outed yourself on mumsnet Or...

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MoonStar07 Wed 28-Sep-16 22:56:24

Worked out who someone was from a thread? Or has anyone ever said to you I know you? I see a lot of NC so I just wondered!

MoonStar07 Wed 28-Sep-16 22:56:50

I should say AIBU to ask...

AnotherEmma Wed 28-Sep-16 22:58:29

Yes and I was mortified blush

<waves at the friend who worked out it was me, in case you're still lurking>

AtSea1979 Wed 28-Sep-16 23:00:13

No never, I just don't get the whole 'outing' thing. It's such a bit site what are the chances of someone who knows the tiny details being on here and then actually reading your comment.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Wed 28-Sep-16 23:01:16

I'm not secretive.

I've said many things which could out me.

No idea if anyone knows who I am.

RJnomore1 Wed 28-Sep-16 23:02:16

Yes. I posted something about adapt online club dh us part of. Someone else whose dh was part of the club too replied with details. Another club member found it on google and posted it on the club Twitter. Dh saw the Twitter and peed himself laughing. I panicked even though o never post bad stuff about him, mnhq removed the thread, I name changed, we all breathed again and moved on.

RJnomore1 Wed 28-Sep-16 23:02:56

A daft club sorry Asian they mostly don't take themselves too seriously

MoonStar07 Wed 28-Sep-16 23:03:27

I have recently come across friend mumsnetters through their Facebook 'liking' and sharing and I wonder if they could work out who I was!! It's a bit scary lol

Boogers Wed 28-Sep-16 23:03:28

I'm the same as KingJoffrey. Don't know how to name change on my phone anyway.

ProfessorPickles Wed 28-Sep-16 23:03:45

I out myself constantly, I'd be mortified if someone were to realise who I am and read the things I say on here blush

I like to throw people off the scent on occasion though by changing small details by saying DD instead of DS. Muhuhahaha.

ilovesooty Wed 28-Sep-16 23:04:36

I've spotted people I know.
I'd imagine a good few people know who I am. It doesn't bother me and I never post anything which I'd be worried about being traced to me.

SapphireSeptember Wed 28-Sep-16 23:05:39

Yes, I posted a list of things that make me happy and my mum found it, and said only I could have written it! grin She knows me too well!

worriedabouthimagain Wed 28-Sep-16 23:06:16

I've nc a few times due to fear of outing mm has become somewhere I can let it all out.

KanyesVest Wed 28-Sep-16 23:06:23

I recently spotted a poster I recognised from a different forum. I didn't "know" her particularly well there, and I've never "spoken" to her here. I've certainly never been told if anyone has recognised me.

x2boys Wed 28-Sep-16 23:06:28

Stranger things have happened though Atsea i commented on a rather mundane thread about the secondary school i went to i had a pm asking if was rhe same secondary school they went to it was indeed! Whilst it wasent an outing small details can give things away my secondary school was a run of the mill catholic high school in the north west nothing special!

GruochMacAlpin Wed 28-Sep-16 23:06:29

AtSea it doesn't actually take that much. Say the poster mentions a story that sounds familiar to someone and they do and AS to check.

And find a post that happens to mention where they live/went on holiday.

And another post with the sex and age of their children.

And another post that mentions what they do for a living/specific hobby/etc etc

Within 3 or 4 posts you could easily confirm the identify someone you know.

And then read years worth of posting history and find out all about their relationship with their DH/Mil/colleagues etc etc. Things which aren't necessarily public knowledge.

MsMermaid Wed 28-Sep-16 23:07:23

I know who one person is. We had a conversation about MN a couple of years ago, so I know she's on here and vice versa. I worked out who she is just by a few things mentioned in passing, I assume she knows who I am by the same reasoning, but it's not really being outed more recognising a friend I don't see much of.

There are a couple of other friends on here, but I haven't spotted them yet. They may well have worked out who I am but I don't say anything I wouldn't say in public anyway.

EssentialHummus Wed 28-Sep-16 23:08:56

I've spotted one person I know from another anonymous forum under a different name confused but tbf she has a, er, distinctive posting style. I also know who she is irl and could feasibly meet her through work!

I think anyone who knows me would quickly recognise me on here by putting together various clues about my work, studies, location, background, DH etc. I'm waiting for it to happen.

Abetes Wed 28-Sep-16 23:09:23

I'm not sure if anyone has ever recognised me, but I have recognised a friend of mine who posts a lot in a specific area of the site and also recognised my next door neighbour. Have not mentioned to them though.

tristerflexu Wed 28-Sep-16 23:10:49

I am about 99% certain that a mum from my DD's class is on here and I'm 100% certain a mum from DS's class is on here. I've not been outed though and regularly NC and alter details

heron98 Wed 28-Sep-16 23:12:36

I am not worried about it. I don't have kids so no one would suspect me! MN is my guilty secret. I've been on it for ten years.

clumsyduck Wed 28-Sep-16 23:13:28


I do the same haha then panick that someone will be like hold on do you have dd or ds and accuse me of being a liar .

I only ever alter insignificant details though
And name change too

Muddlewitch Wed 28-Sep-16 23:14:38

Same as KingJoffrey. It wouldn't be difficult for anyone that knows me to work it out as I do post identifying things, but no one has ever said that they do and I wouldn't be worried if they did.

x2boys Wed 28-Sep-16 23:20:20

I also post on netmums and i have spotted several people i know on there but they use their own name unlike on here i like being anonymous.

Rattusn Wed 28-Sep-16 23:38:12

I have recognised a friend, she did post a lot of very specific, identifiable information, so there was no doubt it was her.

She also posted about personal issues. I'm not sure she realised how easily identifiable she was, or maybe she didn't care. I thought about telling her, but then she name changed.

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