Advanced search

To be a bit upset by what I've just seen?

(127 Posts)
BitchQueen90 Wed 28-Sep-16 14:37:41

Just popped to Tesco on my break to grab something for dinner tonight. I was stood in the veg aisle next to a couple with their DS who looked about 4 in the trolley. Their DS was having a bit of a moan and I heard the mother say to him "I will leave you here if you don't shut up." I thought this was a bit harsh but I understand sometimes we get frustrated with young DC and say things without thinking. The boy didn't "shut up" though, so the parents went round to another aisle so they were hidden from view from him. Obviously the boy thought he had been left and started to cry, while the parents stood there watching him and giggling.

When they saw me glaring at them they went back round to him. I know it's not my business to get involved but AIBU? I thought it was shocking behaviour to be honest and I wouldn't do that to my DS no matter how frustrated I was.

DerekSprechenZeDick Wed 28-Sep-16 14:40:02

Kids wind us up. I'd do the whole I'll leave you there thing but my son can move quicker than I can

MidnightVelvettheSixth Wed 28-Sep-16 14:43:49

I had a boyfriend once who told me that as a small boy he was quarrelling with his older sibling in the back of a car whilst in France & his parents got fed up & told them they would leave them there. Boyfriend & sibling didn't stop so they got kicked out of the car & left at the side of the road whilst the parents drove some way up the road, then parked & watched them! Boyfriend was left in a foreign country where he didn't speak the language thinking he had been abandoned!

To intentionally frighten a child is wrong no matter what the circumstances!

LurkingHusband Wed 28-Sep-16 14:48:06

To intentionally frighten a child is wrong no matter what the circumstances!

Perhaps someone could let the Catholic church know ?

DerekSprechenZeDick Wed 28-Sep-16 14:49:04


callycat1 Wed 28-Sep-16 14:49:24

You probably saw my dad and stepmum!

MidnightVelvettheSixth Wed 28-Sep-16 14:50:03

grin grin

NinaSimoneful Wed 28-Sep-16 14:51:23

My DD had a little meltdown wanting to go "dis waaaay" and I did the pretend 'I'll leave you here' thing but a policeman saw and swore at me :-(

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Wed 28-Sep-16 14:51:27

Oh FFS - it's not like they were hitting him. Perhaps if you come across a situation like that again, you can give them the benefit of your advice on perfect parenting?

Gizlotsmum Wed 28-Sep-16 14:52:00

I could have been those parents ( although I wouldn't have been giggling) I have walked away from my dc when they have refused to walk or follow me...never far but out of sight.

DerekSprechenZeDick Wed 28-Sep-16 14:52:22

I intentionally frighten my son a lot. I hide and jump out at him

AliceInHinterland Wed 28-Sep-16 14:52:59

I hate practical jokes on anyone, I think it takes a bit of a mean streak to want to frighten kids.

PurpleDaisies Wed 28-Sep-16 14:53:26

Will they win the parent of the year award? Probably not.

It it such poor parenting that it's worthy of starting a thread about? No.

melibu84 Wed 28-Sep-16 14:54:00

One of my friends used to argue with her sister so much, her mum packed them into a car and told them she was taking them to a children's home, and then drove them to an old hospital. Not saying I condone it, but she said it worked wonders :D

ageingrunner Wed 28-Sep-16 14:55:09

My dad did that I'll leave you thing when I was about 4. I lost sight of him so couldn't follow and ended up lost. Apparently there was police involvement and tears from my mum etc. I've always been wary of using this tactic with my own dc!

BitchQueen90 Wed 28-Sep-16 14:55:17

Definitely not a perfect parent grin I wouldn't want to intentionally frighten my DS though. I guess the general consensus is IABU grin

flippinada Wed 28-Sep-16 14:57:27

I suspect it's not the hiding, it's more the giggling at his distress that has bothered the OP.

Anyone intentionally frightening their child is

HerRoyalFattyness Wed 28-Sep-16 14:57:52

derek I frighten my kids too. It's funny.
Even the one year old hides behind things then shouts boo now grin

MidnightVelvettheSixth Wed 28-Sep-16 14:59:52

I'm probably unreasonable as well but I work in childrens' social care with children who have actually been abandoned by their families so I guess I have no sense of humour for this subject at all.

I'll leave the thread now smile

flippinada Wed 28-Sep-16 15:01:06

*is just plain nasty.

seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom Wed 28-Sep-16 15:02:39

My mum used to pretend to call boarding schools to see if they had space for me and my siblings.

It's not great parenting, I agree, but 4 year olds can be arseholes. The giggling is a bit gross. If they were taking deep breaths to calm down I'd be more understanding.

WaitrosePigeon Wed 28-Sep-16 15:06:32

I say that on the regular grin

JellyBelli Wed 28-Sep-16 15:08:16

Do people really believe that hitting is the only form of abuse or of shitty parenting?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Wed 28-Sep-16 15:12:14

Of course not - if the child was in immediate danger the OP should have said something rather than coming on here and bitching to a group of Internet strangers

NeverEverAnythingEver Wed 28-Sep-16 15:12:20

Does anyone remember the report not so long ago that in Japan some parents really did leave their son by the roadside and then the child disappeared when they came back to find him? And there were woods with bears and wolves! In the end they found him safe and sound. But ...

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now