Aibu about neighbours dog?(9 Posts)
Ok so here's the deal, my next door neighbours are a big boisterous family of teenage boys and a single mam, there's a teenage girl with a baby who lives there too but not sure of relation. The oldest boy is training to be a mechanic (good for him!) so has cars and car parts all over the drive which spills into the street. They often have a group men aged in their early - mid twenties drinking beer and hanging over their (and by default my) fence. This doesn't bother me, I don't feel threatened by them and they are always perfectly polite. My dh is a bit spooked by them but it doesn't affect his life in any way so it's a non issue (he once had one of them call his slippers 'girls slippers' when he put the bins out but it's hardly a hanging offence).
We had an issue with them last year where they didn't clean their drain and it flooded dirty bath water over our front step and when we approached them about this (very politely) the mother lied to my face first saying it was our drain (?) then saying it was the councils drain and I needed to contact them. Then she started to cry and say that she's recently had a heart attack due to stress and that me politely knocking on her door and asking her to clean a drain so I didn't walk through her dirty bath water every time I went into my house was causing her to feel poorly. The drain was cleaned later in the afternoon by the oldest boy and no more was said.
Ok so to the dog (sorry about long post but don't want to drip feed)
The dog is a beautiful young huskey not a puppy but still boisterous. It used to jump over our fence and dig up our garden but we paid for a higher fence (even though theirs is a council property and looking at the deeds it's on their side and technically is their responsibility) and this stopped the issue of the dog coming in our garden, HOWEVER now it howls aaaaaaaaaaaaaaall the time. It's such a heartbreakingly sad sound, it's a proper wolf howl and it's constant. I have never known them to take it out and it must be so bored, Huskies need a lot of stimulation!
My first instinct is to offer to walk it myself, I have the time to do this and I have an afternoon walk anyway so it wouldn't be an issue but it's a BIG dog and if it's not been out much I can't imagine it'll be well socialised. Also what would I do if it ran away? But someone? Got injured? Would I be liable???
The next option is to report them but they would know that was me and though I'm not threatened by them now I certainly wouldn't want them to turn as I have seen some of the lads that hang outside the house being very aggressive with people.
I actually think this might be a what would you do, rather than an Aibu, so what would you do???
I wouldn't offer to walk it. It's not your problem and they'll probably get another one of that one becomes less of a problem.
Should also add that my MIL has Alaskan malamutes (similar to huskies), they're well trained and socialised with other dogs but when one is on a lead it practically drags me down the street. In fact, I didn't feel safe walking it so made sure my partner had the lead and he struggled with the pulling.
Even if you walk it the chances are it will still howl all the time if they're leaving it with no stimulation the rest of the time. Does it live outside?
Huskies are notorious Houdini characters so I'm surprised he hasn't escaped (yet!!). It's kind that you would consider walking him, maybe talk with them and ask if you could walk with one of them a couple of times. I wouldn't let it off the lead because it might zoom off never to be seen again (and that would cause even more problems!)
Makes me SO angry people having dogs ( especially working type ) and neglecting them.
Don't get involved. Huskies are hard work and cannot be let of the lead, it will pull you over too.
Report them for the noise first off. Maybe ring rspca to log complaint but I don't think they will do anything.
The RSPCA won't do anything even if you report them, as long as it has shelter and food and doesn't have any signs of neglect, they are powerless to do anything. I had neighbours like these before too, but they weren't polite. I think walking the dog would definitely benefit the poor dog socially and mentally, but I wouldn't allow the dog of the lead.
It's not outside and it's well fed etc so I doubt the rspca will be bothered at all, it's just the howling, I can't relax it sounds so sad and it's literally all the time.
I have nothing to help re the dog but you're very dismissive of your DH's feelings with regard to the neighbours. Just because you don't have an issue doesn't mean he can't feel how he does, and if he does feel spooked by them it's a problem. Imagine if a man was so dismissive of his DW's concerns? TBH they sound like a bloody nightmare even without the poor howling dog. I thought that huskies were working pack animals so keeping one singly and not walking/working it a lot is very cruel.
Oh I didn't mean to sound dismissive of dh's feelings, he thought it was hilarious about his slippers. He's not intimidated by them, I meant spooked in the way that he comes from a very wealthy neighbourhood and didn't understand the way they were hanging about. He gets annoyed by the way they don't keep their garden tidy (it's horrific with a rotting trampoline and loads of dog shite!) I just don't think he's ever encountered people like this. I'm far more laid back with the view that they have different priorities to us and we're better off buying a massive fence and ignoring it than wasting energy fighting them.
I grew up in a rough council estate with a single mam and our lives were made hell by a gang of lads and I just don't think it's worth it.
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