Advanced search

Auntie in the park

(41 Posts)
TheJediSmurf Sun 25-Sep-16 16:41:52

Today I took my 3 dds to the park. A 5 year old boy whose in youngest dds class fell off the monkey bars. As me and the mum are quite friendly I ran over to help as he was screaming crying. I asked him if he was with his mum and he said he was with his auntie. I asked where if he knew where she was and he said she went to the car. So I took him to the bench and we sat and waited for her. Ten minutes later the boy was still sobbing and his auntie ran over yelling at me. She seemed distressed that some one had her nephew but I did explain how I knew him and how he fell off the bars. She made me feel awful, I still do. I'm quite hurt at some of the things she said to me. Am I being too sensitive or is she unreasonable?

WaitrosePigeon Sun 25-Sep-16 16:42:39

She's obviously unreasonable and I would mention it to the mum at school.

StealthPolarBear Sun 25-Sep-16 16:43:11

Sibu and feeling guilty she wasn't supervising him. As she should do!

PurpleDaisies Sun 25-Sep-16 16:44:14

She left her five year old alone in the park and she was annoyed at you for sitting with him while he was upset?

She is in the wrong.

PurpleDaisies Sun 25-Sep-16 16:44:50

That should say she left her five year old nephew alone.

Queenbean Sun 25-Sep-16 16:46:07

I reckon she knows she was wrong, is really embarrassed and knows that the boy / you will grass her up for doing a poor auntie job

Yanbu, lucky you were there

ScarletOverkill Sun 25-Sep-16 16:46:47

I would mention it to the mum when you see her next. The auntie was probably shitting herself that she had been found to be negligent and was on the offensive.

BackforGood Sun 25-Sep-16 16:59:52

She clearly knows she shouldn't have left him for so long and is feeling very guilty. People feeling guilty often get very defensive and that comes out as anger against others.

Giratina Sun 25-Sep-16 17:02:17

She was unreasonable. I'd definitely grass her up to the mum both for leaving him and for the verbal abuse.

holte Sun 25-Sep-16 17:13:08

She's over-reacted to cover up & obscure what she's done wrong in leaving the child alone.

IAmNotAMindReader Sun 25-Sep-16 17:14:12

Tell the boys mother. She needs to know her relative is not capable of supervising a 5 year old. SWBU, guilt induced rant due to her own negligence.

PoppyBirdOnAWire Sun 25-Sep-16 17:15:33

She felt guilty for leaving the nephew. Tell the mum.

NeedsAsockamnesty Sun 25-Sep-16 17:17:30

Guilt induced rant.

I would be furious if my sister did that for both things!

LadyConstanceDeCoverlet Sun 25-Sep-16 17:18:03

Don't feel awful, you did nothing wrong, whereas the aunt very obviously was badly in the wrong.

I agree the mother needs to know the aunt isn't to be trusted with her child.

george1020 Sun 25-Sep-16 17:23:38

You need to tell the mother and also add how she was rude to you too.

Billben Sun 25-Sep-16 17:24:16

I'm sure the auntie has already told her side of the story to the mum, so you need to go and tell her yours. She was in the wrong big time

FannyFifer Sun 25-Sep-16 17:26:04

What was she yelling at you?

sykadelic Sun 25-Sep-16 17:26:47

She's hoping by insulting you enough you won't tell her sister. I 100% would tell her sister what happened but wouldn't be surprised if she claims something entirely different happened (and tries coaching her DNephew to that effect).

So I'd tell the sister "I'm really sorry about the other day. I hope I didn't upset your sister too much by comforting [child]. I saw him crying, no-one else was around and DD was upset seeing him cry (the one who's in her class). I hope he's okay, just got a bit of a fright I think." and see what she says. I'd bet her sister claims she was looking for him, he'd run off/you'd taken him somewhere and she got SUCH a fright

sykadelic Sun 25-Sep-16 17:30:20

OR you could be more blunt

"Did your sister tell you what happened at the park the other day? I'm sure she was surprised to see a "stranger" sitting with your son but I have to say I was quite shocked she was nowhere around and took 10+ minutes to come back from "the car", which is where your son said she'd gone. She was really quite rude and said X, Y and Z about me, and I understand she didn't know me from Adam but she could quite clearly tell I was there with my own children and your son knew who I was. Feel free to ask my kids what happened if you like, they were equally upset their mummy was being yelled at by the "mean lady with X"

WeAllHaveWings Sun 25-Sep-16 17:30:29

I would want to know if my dsis left my 5 year old unsupervised out of eye and ear shot for so long. Tell the mum how rude she was, maybe say she probably got a fright and over reacted because she had left him alone so long, but it is no excuse for her behaviour and the things she said.

TheJediSmurf Sun 25-Sep-16 17:35:32

Hi thanks for your replies, I'm going to tell the mum at the school tmrw morn

Benedikte2 Sun 25-Sep-16 18:08:09

Jedi Smurf do let us know what the poor wee mite's mother's reaction was.
Hate to think what a state he'd be in if you hadn't been there and there's always the possibility he may have wandered off looking for his aunt and got onto the road etc

KayTee87 Sun 25-Sep-16 18:28:00

Place marking, want to know what the mum says grin

Champagneformyrealfriends Sun 25-Sep-16 18:30:09

She sounds a treat. Tell his mum. You have no reason to feel as if you did anything wrong.

EastMidsMummy Sun 25-Sep-16 18:30:48

Bad Auntie. You did everything right.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now