To not believe my ex has lost his job

[GinAndSonic]

... A week after threatening to quit his job rather than pay an increased amount of child maintenance (£54 per month increase, which for context is a little over the £50 per month I pay in bus fares for the two children)

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

Sounds a bit suspect. How will he support himself?

[GinAndSonic]

Jobseekers? He has form for quitting jobs and refusing to apply for any that he doesn't think sound brilliant.

[ChazsBrilliantAttitude]

Oh what a co-incidence. Is there any way you can check?

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

If he has quit then he wont be entitled to JSA for a while. One day, karma will catch up to these twats and they'll be left with a pot to piss in thanks to their own greed.

[witchywoohoo]

Grrrrrrrrrrrr. Sorry nothing constructive to say but the steam is pouring out my ears on your behalf. Honestly - who are these people? How can they look at themselves in the mirror?

[namechangeforanonymity]

And this is precisely why maintenance payments should be made a cumulative type of debt.

Sure, mess around all you like quitting jobs etc. but if the debt carried on building up at a set amount per month to be paid to the resident parent in the long run (although it would stop accruing when kids reached the age where it was no longer relevant), there'd potentially be less women heading for impoverished retirements as they would eventually get what they were owed. A debt that would still be owed for your share of raising your offspring.

If the debt was taken into account when mortgage applications were made by non resident parents too, it might focus their mind on paying it off. Behind on any sort of debt repayment or missed payments can scupper a mortgage application.

[GinAndSonic]

He only sees them once every 3 weeks amd he's cancelled two of those in a row now too. It was our dds birthday nearly 2 weeks ago and he's made no effort to get a card or gift to her either. I'm so angry with him for being such a cunt and so sad for my dc that he is just effectively rejecting them.

[witchywoohoo]

It's hard to believe that it's not regarded as a debt namechanged - ridiculous.

[ClopySow]

I feel you.

After more than 10 years of this shit, i have decided he can stick his money up his fucking tight arsehole. It's very freeing. I'm skint, but the rage has gone.

I'm not sure if i believe karma will get the fucker in this lifetime, but he's coming back as a single mum of 12 next time.

I on the other hand will come back as a cat or a dog with very loving owners.

[ShtoppenDerFloppen]

The most liberating thing I think that happened with me was not chasing XH for money. I have never had half a penny from him. He never thought his son important enough to offer.

DS visited his father for the first time in over a year last weekend. XH had been saying over and over on the phone to DS how much he was looking forward to seeing him and giving him the Christmas and 18th birthday presents that they had been saving for him.

DS got there (5 hours on the train each way, I paid for the ticket) and wonder of wonders, his father "couldn't find" any of the gifts he had been saying he was so excited to give just 2 days earlier. DS stayed there for 36 hours, then was on the train home (and the phone to me).

DS didn't expect to see any gifts, and has said he will also not travel to see his father again. If XH cares so much, he can come here. According to DS - that will never happen. :(

[Starlight234]

It is very sad.

I assume you are going through CSA... If not do so.

I get £5 a week off my ex..It does nothing to support my son but I hope it reminds him he has a son...

[GinAndSonic]

It's all done through child maintenance service so I don't have to chase I just get the money paid by standing order each month.