Advanced search find Mumsnet quite depressing

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Blueskyrain Fri 23-Sep-16 14:36:00

I used to be an active member of a forum which was a lot about relationships etc, similar to here but younger, less about kids etc.

That ended up being shut down rather suddenly and I've eventually signed up for here because I miss forum debates, chat etc. But I'm finding it a bit depressing.

Is there a positive section that I'm missing or something? Obviously I understand that a lot of people come here for advice and are in awful situations, but it all seems to be about genuinely useless men, thinking other men are useless and breaking up, with very little in the way of really happy threads.

CrikeyJoseph Fri 23-Sep-16 14:37:51

AIBU is generally acceptable to brutal to OP. This section can be depressing.

Ego147 Fri 23-Sep-16 14:39:05

You want Chat

Or Telly Addicts.etc

J0kersSmile Fri 23-Sep-16 14:40:28

It goes through stages like anything. I dip out when I've had enough of the same type of threads about dick head husbands, mils but I strangly love the threads about how do you wash up, how often do you change you're bed sheets ect. confused the politics and feminist bits are good for debates.

ShowMeTheElf Fri 23-Sep-16 14:42:53

AIBU is not the place to post or read if you want something positive.
MN is a mixed bag. It's all here somewhere, you just have to dig a bit.

Ifailed Fri 23-Sep-16 14:43:57

Go somewhere else if you want fluffy clouds and sparkles. This is about RL.

Good Luck.

hellsbellsmelons Fri 23-Sep-16 14:46:32

Netmums might suit you better?

Floggingmolly Fri 23-Sep-16 14:47:25

Go and buy a nice copy of Take a Break instead.

CockacidalManiac Fri 23-Sep-16 14:47:50

I'm only here for the mad neighbour threads.

TroysMammy Fri 23-Sep-16 14:48:37

I love the Litter Tray and looking at pictures of kittens. I currently don't have a cat but maybe in the future.

I get quite annoyed by people who ask "should I go to A&E?" and it's obvious they do and then come up with all sorts of excuses not to go or never update. I find that awfully rude, people are only giving good advice out of concern, the least the OP can do is say they are ok.

Also some poster's comments make me think wtf are they thinking? Mainly it's over thinking and can get really nasty.

There has been many a time I wish someone would upset me so much I never go on Mumsnet again. Despite the fact I waste so much time on it is another matter. It's like a drug.

Amandahugandkisses Fri 23-Sep-16 14:49:13

It is what it is. You can't change it.

Obsidian77 Fri 23-Sep-16 14:49:52

Start a couple of threads on things you'd like to read about. If they're wildly popular then you have indeed identified a welcome improvement. Otherwise drift away... I don't think it's compulsory to be on MN.

IPityThePontipines Fri 23-Sep-16 14:51:04

Chat and telly addicts are the nicest sections.

Sadly AIBU tends to be where a load of Katie Hopkins wannabes congregate.

StepAwayFromTheThesaurus Fri 23-Sep-16 14:51:04

Recipes is plenty cheerful enough.

FoxesSitOnBoxes Fri 23-Sep-16 14:52:12

Depressing in what way? Hoping you're not talking about people who come here to get help for sad things that have happened to them? If you mean just because some people are dicks then some people are dicks wherever you are, it's not a mumsnet things.

GrumpusLumpus Fri 23-Sep-16 14:56:34

You clearly haven't read the Christmas threads. What's not to love about a load of mums trying to stuff a 4 foot unicorn in the washing machine? Bargains and good laughs.

PotofGold1186 Fri 23-Sep-16 14:57:42

Meh, I used to be part of baby center and found that pretty strange. I find this place a lot bitchier though, some very very odd keyboard warriors. You've actually encouraged me to deactivate my account OP. Sadly, even the support board I go to is full of people spouting off advice in extremely harsh ways. It's like anything, if you don't like it then leave. I am 😉

FlyingElbows Fri 23-Sep-16 14:59:23

Personally I love an aibu parking / pants diagram! You just have to filter out the more radical elements and finely tune your bullshit meter and it's quite bearable.

CockacidalManiac Fri 23-Sep-16 15:02:37

The latest on here is all the rabid anti-trans stuff.

ayeokthen Fri 23-Sep-16 15:04:40

AIBU can be pretty horrific to be fair, I think it's a place for people to vent. Some of the threads can be lovely, really positive and inspiring, some of them are just a good giggle, but yes, I do find some of them bloody depressing. I just hide them and leave well alone.

NavyandWhite Fri 23-Sep-16 15:04:41

It's pretty depressing these days. Definitely changed in the last couple of years.

RawPrawn Fri 23-Sep-16 15:07:16

I love all the 'rabid anti-trans stuff'.

I like knowing that I'm not alone. Mumsnet is good for mental health. It's sometimes the only place that doesn't feel like Stepford.

Blueskyrain Fri 23-Sep-16 15:07:22

I like AIBU actually, and I don't mind the brutality.

Obviously a lot of people come here because they are going through some tough stuff and need support, and that's great. Perhaps Chat is more what I'm after.

It's more that there doesn't seem from what I've seen (excluding AIBU) to be a lot of positivity.

Even the comment from ifailed about this being real life, not sparkles and fluffy clouds showns the negativity.

I have a 'real life', its not perfect, but I'm I'm a very happy, stable marriage, and don't really have much to gripe about life.

Basically, is it for support with issues only, or is it more of an online community dealing with the good as well as the bad, if that makes sense? If, for example, a regular got engaged or something, where would they post about it?

ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe Fri 23-Sep-16 15:07:42

At least it's not compulsory, so that's good.

RawPrawn Fri 23-Sep-16 15:08:05

I think women's reflex to hide all the tough stuff and go back to talking about Christmas and lols is infinitely more depressing.

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